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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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"What did you gain from posting your opinion and not debating?"
Gain...?
Posting my opinion and not debating...?
Wow, this answering question thing is really hard for you, isn't it?
PumpkinAngel
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"Others sparked my interest. The debates generated my interest to learn more abut the topic that everyone else was debating....and before jumping in to a debate, I like to learn a bit more about the topic."
But what have you learned from *others*?
How exactly is learning something from *your* own research an example of learning from *others*?
"Others: I found the links Kristi posted very interesting. I had no idea of some of those things that were there. I also read quite a bit about the industrial revolution and refreshed my memory about the impact that it had socially on families. I learned about about early humans and what fossils have been discovered dating humans on earth. I learned quite a bit about life from those PBS links I posted to savcal about frontier and colonial house."
when you were crowing about how my kids had had 12 caregivers you included pre-k, kindy and school teachers - why do you include them for my kids and not for yours. If you dont include those caregivers, my oldest had 1 caregiver, my middle had 2 caregivers (one of which she had while I was a sahm) and my youngest has had 2 caregivers.
actually my youngest has had more different caregivers by the age of 2 than either of my girls ( at age 2 both girls had each had one caregiver, at 2 he has had 2 different ones) had when i was a wohm - so i guess the answer would be NO my sah has had NO IMPACT on the number of caregivers he has had. of perhaps it has had an impact, he has had more.
Jennie
I already answered but here we go again....
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From you:
PumpkinAngel
...And what do you think that SAHM's today -do- exactly? ;) Certainly our forbears had alot more physical and time intensive labor- however, that doesn't mean that someone else was watching the children (apart from the minority- the nobility/wealthy classes) but rather that the children were there *with* their mothers, working along side them as they were able according to their ages, generally the older keeping an eye on the younger, learning (hands-on) about the work of the household. Certainly you're not suggesting that SAHM's today aren't *also* working in the home? We may be blessed to live in an age where technology and industrial advance make our domestic tasks far less involved than generations past, so that we are able to focus more on family and less on dusting, but there is still quite a bit of work to be done, so in that, all SAHM's are also WAHM's going by that definition. We're certainly not sitting around on our laurels eating bon-bons or something ;)
Wytchy
***Most MEN worked at home, in agricultural setting, or in their own small businesses as bakers, smithies, etc.***
That's not *entirely* true. Most men may have had their business on their own land, but like most small business owners of today, it's not truly "at home"- it's a seperate place designated for business where young children aren't generally cared for in the same area.
***There is no difference between the evolution of the modern businessman vs his ancestor who worked the land - and the modern businesswomen vs her ancestor who was partner with her husband in the same...***
There most certainly is. Historically children would be seen with their mother (and as they got older, often male children with their father) along side them involved in the family business as their age allowed- this is no longer the case (with rare exception) and because of that women have both made the choice and been forced into giving up those early primary caretaking years.
Wytchy
I see you missed the question. I probably confused you, what with making it the first line of my post and all.
Here it is again for you:
What is the definition of "instability of care", as it pertains to this study?
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I think you need to re-read your own post. The author spoke of the present as a point in history, claiming there was something unique about the present as compared to history. If indeed, as you say, the author is referring to history on a much grander scale, then it simply underscores the falseness of the claim that othercare is unique to the present time.
As for the bit you just posted, it's nothing but nonsense, and doesn't even try to present itself as fact.
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