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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Another area where I was a evil SAHM. Depending on the circumstances of where we were living at the time, my DDs gone to school by bus, by walking, by me driving them, them driving themselves, and even by taxi.
I only drove them when riding a bus or walking was not an option. I saw no reason to drive them to school when a bus would do it for me.
*** Certainly breaks of 3-6 hours should be easily possible.***
For most women, yes. Although what would tend to happen is that during the times of those breaks, the woman's body would end up with a low supply (if it were a consistant thing). (And if it weren't, she would tend to become terribly engorged ;)
***I could imagine, for example, time sharing where one mother takes over the nursing for 4-6 hours while the other goes off to work then switching.***
...This would have to be something done from birth most likely- and all of the women would have to have supplies ample enough to handle another child or so. (And one mother is only capable of feeding *so many* children after all...) It's an interesting theory/thought, but one I can't see playing out practically in our culture. I'd be curious to see if/whether/how many other cultures have tried or practiced (or *are* practicing this).... *curious interest*
Wytchy
Just catching up on the thread here and maybe you've already answered it, (I'm fairly far behind at this point ;) but what chapters/verses are you referring to when you reference Biblical sources for the position of WOHM? And are you saying that the WOHM of Biblical times was similar to the WOHM of modern times? In what ways?
Wytchy
Women (and more to the point, women of childbearing age with small children at home) working in taxes? Or just tax collectors in general?
Wytchy
If that's the case, what we call WAHM's today can't be called WAHM's either. Oh, they do some light housekeeping and supervise the children while they do whatever they do to make some money, but....
Heck, can anyone today be called "working" compared to what people of the past had to do?
Oh, and supervising children is not a 'new invention'. Mothers took care of their infant offspring, keeping them close (for the most part, as most women breastfed and proximity is necessary for that). And as the children got older, yes, they were put to work, but that work was educational (it showed the children how things were done because once they were grown they would need to know how to do it themselves.) And as the children got to an appropriate age (extremely young compared to today's youth) they were apprenticed into a trade or took on the business of their father etc. So it's not that children were not supervised- it's that the idea of supervision has changed (dramatically). Some people feel that is a good and beneficial thing. (Although I'd say that a happy middle ground would be the ideal- but that's another topic alltogether ;)
Wytchy
I don't think it's so much a bias in that scenario as a legitimate concern regarding health issues... While admittedly few diseases can be transmitted via breastmilk, there are some, and those that can are generally significant (HIV as one example). I suppose that regular testing could be an idea, but... It's a risk that I know would make alot of women very wary of doing it... It *would* be nice to find such an employment situation, however... It would be fabulous if more places of employment would become more family friendly... Then the whole SAH/WOH debate would really be pretty much a non-issue. It would be the best of both worlds :)
Wytchy
...I think the question is what do you consider *the real work of mothering* to BE exactly.
Wytchy
In the beginning it most certainly does... Or have you never nursed?
Wytchy
*rolls eyes* You both need to get a life and grow up. Good Gods :( I don't know if I'll make it through the rest of this thread if I have to keep wading through this crud between you both. *sigh*
Wytchy
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