how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:15pm

Yeah- I would have rather been incapacitated in a full body cast with poison ivy and unable to scratch than have had to go 'catch frogs' as a kid... I was never an outdoorsy child, (probably due to allergies- but whatever). The idea of running around in the muck trying to find, let alone touch amphibians would have had me in tears. Give me a book and some art supplies in a nice indoor airconditioned room ANY day ;)

Wytchy ;)
(Yeah- I know- follower-of-nature-religion-who-can't-stand-the-outdoors... LOL! Go figure! ;)

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:23pm

Are you suggesting that these early bottles (and I mean early as in the tiny mention in the article from the bc era, not the recent history of the 18/1900's, although I'd like your take on that as well) would have been used as primary feeding sources on the basis of convenience (as opposed to being 'necessary for *survival*')?

Wytchy

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:30pm

Remember that when one is homeschooling there generally isn't any distinction between "summervacation" and the rest of the year as far as any vacations from learning. Throughout the year, for most homeschoolers, learning takes place on a continual basis (more or less structured, according to the individual family's preference). Given that point, 4hrs a day is probably giving the kid *more* time to just 'be a kid'- not less. Given that a normal school day is around 8hrs (3 of which are generally eaten up with class changes and lunch period), taking 4hrs for homeschooling would seem to be the more effective way to make sure that the child is getting in plenty of play time. :)

Wytchy

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:38pm

***See, i didnt realize having pets counted as a homeschooling science activity.***

:) It certainly *can*... In fact, it's also a science activity that many public/private schools undertake (the classroom pet project) whether it be fish, turtles, hermit crabs, a rabbit- whatever... But it's not just the *having* the animal(s) it is the teaching *about* the animal(s) and their care/natural habitat/predators/food source/etc. etc. etc. that makes it an educational project. :)

Wytchy

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 5:45pm

What *is* a debate other than people going back and forth over different opinions? If the issue (in this case WOH/SAH were a matter of factual basis that unwaveringly supports one "side" over the other as the absolutely more beneficial way to raise children across the board, would this issue still even *be* a debate? ;)

Wytchy

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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 6:16pm
That is not debate. That's just people stating their opinions. You'll get nowhere that way. Debate is supporting your opinion with logic, data or evidence. Of course, you you view the logic, data and evidence is also up for debate. That's what makes it interesting.
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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 6:19pm

Not PA but I believe wet nurses have been used throughout history for convenience as well as survival. Bottles likely weren't because we didn't know what to feed babies to keep them healthy.

When I was a baby, my mother mixed evaporated milk and sugar. Not too great.

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 6:33pm

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Well.....there's a comment destined to reduce them both to tears, I'm sure ::::rolling eyes:::

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Sat, 08-06-2005 - 6:38pm

<<***See, i didnt realize having pets counted as a homeschooling science activity.***

:) It certainly *can*... In fact, it's also a science activity that many public/private schools undertake (the classroom pet project) whether it be fish, turtles, hermit crabs, a rabbit- whatever... But it's not just the *having* the animal(s) it is the teaching *about* the animal(s) and their care/natural habitat/predators/food source/etc. etc. etc. that makes it an educational project. :)>>

Yeah, Jkuhnke, it wasn't that my old apartment was roach infested; we were simply engaging in a lengthy study of urban etymology.......

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 8:37pm

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I disagree based on my dh's own personal experiences.

PumpkinAngel

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