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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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I took you to be meaning that it was a fairly common occurrance- not the exception. My mistake :)
Wytchy
I'm speaking of the newborn period when nursing is just getting established. It's not *at all* uncommon to have baby at the breast for what seems almost constantly during that period (for about the first 6 weeks-ish).
Wytchy
"So his financial 'situation' takes precedence over the mother-child bond, his wife's mental health and the overall family happiness?"
Overall family happiness is, in part, dependent on the family's financial situation, is it not?
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***Why is that the only real difference? If I am allowing my sons to be child led on their education activities then only if I record and categorize then is it homeschooling? Why?***
Here's the difference:
Homeschooling- often child led educational activities undertaken as the primary basis of education as well as active parenting- documented and often checked up on by the school system or other governing body.
Active parenting- often child led educational activities undertaken as part of ones parenting- child enrolled in formal schooling.
The kids are learning the same things, the parents are both actively parenting, the difference is just that as the basis of homeschooling, such active parenting is documented and counts as curriculum/educational progress. Granted, there are other differences, but the point is that either way we're dealing with active, hands-on parenting.
***Active parenting during the hours that the child was in school? How can one do that when a child is attending school and not being home schooled at home?***
I think you're taking me to be saying that it's not possible. I am not. The parents have to be home with their children sometime, and when they are, they engage in 'active parenting'. I think you're trying to pick an argument where there is none ;)
As am I....and I have a couple of good friends who homeschool their children fulltime and not in addition to nor child led. They have developed a curriculum and actually sit down and teach their children, although as they get older (4-5th grade) she has said it's easier as they have developed great problem solving skills and often teach themselves the material simply by working it out in their head.***
There are various ways to homeschool- some are more formal and "classroom based" than others- but often parents of homeschooled children allow their children's interests to at least partially dictate the lessons learned. (Of course some things are absolutely required as a part of a well rounded education, but still...)
***But I can certainly call what I do homeschooling if it another poster does as well....certainly doesn't make it true....but you know.***
Uh- whatever ;)
***I don't know, I attended a very large highschool 2000+ students and was set up like a college campus.***
Sounds nice. Quite frankly, I would have preferred things to have been done the way you describe them. What I am getting at though is that the timing I've laid out isn't uncommon. It's certainly not a given across the board as you've shown, but it's not a rarity either.
***You know a building for science, one for math, etc and we had 6 minutes between classes attended from 7.10-2.20 and didn't just have 4 hours for classes. We had 6 classes a day plus lunch, and you scheduled those classes very similar to the college style. I am thankful that the schools around here don't have that schedule and have much more time for learning. I know many schools are actually moving from the 50 minute classes to the 1hour20minute classes to have more indepth learning time.***
That sounds not only far more effective but more enjoyable IMO... I always thought we wasted far too much time between classes and in study hall. I'd rather been at home with my nose in a book ;)
***I really don't think elementary school needs to prep you for the college scene....just get ready for middle school or high school.***
I'm not saying it does- I'm saying *IF* that schedule were applied to the higher grades. Perhaps you misread...
Wytchy
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