how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:28pm

"If that's the case, what we call WAHM's today can't be called WAHM's either. Oh, they do some light housekeeping and supervise the children while they do whatever they do to make some money, but.... "

Good point.

"Heck, can anyone today be called "working" compared to what people of the past had to do?"

Again, Good point.

"Oh, and supervising children is not a 'new invention'. Mothers took care of their infant offspring, keeping them close (for the most part, as most women breastfed and proximity is necessary for that)."

Yes. ITA!

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:29pm
Exactly. John went to bed every night at 7pm when he was an infant. Why? Because he had to be up 5:am, and his natural sleep cycle for night time was 10 hours. And my own bedtime was 8pm because I had to be up at 4.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:31pm
I'm guessing that will be next year's Ongoing Winter Sociology Study.

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:38pm

"Remember that when one is homeschooling there generally isn't any distinction between "summervacation" and the rest of the year as far as any vacations from learning."

You are correct. No vacations from learning here, as we most definately homeschool year round :)

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:45pm

Please, please, please. I am prostrate on the floor. I will do almost anything (up to perhaps putting a W sticker on my car) for us not to go down this road again.


Please! I am willing to never haiku again. I am willing to try to not start political debates or be a smart butt. I'll apologize for the border collie remark and will never channel a 20 something who can't write (*gumsnap*) but the love of Pete...not this road too.


You know this whole thread just proves my theory we are in a hell of our own making and debate the same things in cycles esp with MomHk.


Rational people who don't homeschool their children while sending the same child to school also realize their teacher does caregiving at the school. Irrational people determined to be the only major influence in their child's live does not realize this and never will.


Alex says he has a shiny purple and pink helmet with silver lightning streaks on it to give to you. He told me that if we just disengage now, he'll like his knees again. OK, I am making the part about disengaging up--he can barely say superior much less disengage. I keep trying to get him to tell me that I am a superior mother.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:48pm
I might have bought the engaging part; you lost all credibility when you said he'd be willing to like his knees again :)

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:54pm

***See, i didnt realize having pets counted as a homeschooling science activity.***

":) It certainly *can*... In fact, it's also a science activity that many public/private schools undertake (the classroom pet project) whether it be fish, turtles, hermit crabs, a rabbit- whatever... But it's not just the *having* the animal(s) it is the teaching *about* the animal(s) and their care/natural habitat/predators/food source/etc. etc. etc. that makes it an educational project. :)"

Again, you are correct. BTW, my dd is particularly interested in the different classifications of animals. For example, we have a reptile (a garden snake), an amphibian (a tiger salamnder), 2 fish (a gourami and a beta or siamese fighting fish), 2 arachnids (a cobalt blue tarantula and a choco golden knee taratula), an arthropod (a hermit crab), and 2 mammals (a cream tabby kitten and an adult siamese cat) :)

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:56pm

"What *is* a debate other than people going back and forth over different opinions?"

Exactly!

"If the issue (in this case WOH/SAH were a matter of factual basis that unwaveringly supports one "side" over the other as the absolutely more beneficial way to raise children across the board, would this issue still even *be* a debate? ;)"

Absolutely! ITA!

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 5:59pm

OMG you are so exasperating!


<<"Heck, can anyone today be called "working" compared to what people of the past had to do?"


Again, Good point.>>


That's what half of us have been saying that you're been arguing so vehemently with!

Elaine: "Is it a problem

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:02pm

"It's still all based on opinion :)"

Yes!

"And as far as I can recall, the poster in question *was* backing up their positions- with the sources that they'd used to form/support them as well as explainations of her logic."

Thank you. I appreciate this simple acknowledgement.

"That those sources are not viewed as credible and that logic is not viewed as sensible by the other poster does not mean that sources and logic were not provided :"

Yes. Exactly!

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