how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:03pm

"In recent history I'd agree with the convenience issue, but at what point do *you* believe alternate methods of feeding for reasons of 'mothers convenience' started to be practiced? (Or, to make it easier- started to be commonly practiced)?"

Great question!

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:19pm

"Part of the Bible is books of history. Part of it is collections of hymns and poetry. Part of it is a collection of ancient law codes. Part of it is letters of advice and works of systematic theology addressed to new churches. Part of it is social commentary. Part of it is apocalyptic literature. Part of it is probably an ancient morality play (the book of Job)."

But none of it is "fiction" in the sense of the word today, as a literary genre."

None of it is fictional? Hmm, so how would the following stories be classified:

The Story of Adam and Eve, Noah's Ark, The Tower Of Babel, Jonah and the Whale, the Rainbow and the Promise, The Christmas Story (aka The Story of Jesus' Birth), etc?

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:21pm
And wasn't it just a week ago that somebody put in "what were your most memorable debates" fluff thread and I reminisced about the momfhk homeschooling thread of yore. It's like the movie Groundhog Day (with Bill Murray- must see!) where he is doomed to keep reliving the same day until he learns some sort of lesson. I'm doomed to keep reliving the same debate until I learn to stop posting. (And I put in a movie reference for you in homage to that "think of a movie refernce" thread.)
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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:26pm

She didn't say "none of it is fictional". She said "none of it is fiction in the sense of the word today, as a literary genre".

In any case, the part of it that is necessarily factual is the descriptions of daily life- and that is the only part that was being debated.

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:33pm

My heart has a warm glow.


I adore Groundhog Day. I had forgotten the part where they kidnap the groundhog. Poor groundhog.


I should change my tagline. I thought of Groundhog Day or Say Anything and went with Alex instead.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

      &nbs

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:53pm

"Oh, and actually according to your mentor, it's not a debate board, nor a pissing contest....it's a post your opinion board"

Please, by all means, direct us to the post(s) where *I* stated this:

"it's not a debate board," and/or "it's a post your own opinion board?"

Yes, I happen to think that this debate ultimately boils down to the discussion of opinions. And...?

Clearly you went did from point A to point F on this one LOL?

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 6:58pm

"Actually, what you call human nature, the Bible calls human nature as well. Christians believe that it is human nature to sin. So you won't find any argument there."

But, I'm not a Christian. Furthermore, not only do I *not* "believe that it is human nature to sin", I do not believe in the idea of "sin" in the first place.

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:09pm

"If you offer non-credible sources in a debate, expect to be shot down. Debate material has to have credibility or logic behind them or they are useless. You can't convince someone of your point if your sources of support are questionable and you can't offer a logical argument for why you're right. You'll just get dismissed as being prejudiced and you should be."

Again, can you prove that The Natural Child, is a non-credible and/or unreliable source?

"I do love to see research data debated. Especially by the experts. I find it amazing how two people can read the same study and draw different conclusions. You need to understand both sides in order to have a clue as to what is really being said by the research."

What about the NICHD study? Is it non-credible and/or unreliable as well? BTW, you do realize that the abstracts I posted were from the *actual* study, right?

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:16pm

"She didn't say "none of it is fictional". She said "none of it is fiction in the sense of the word today, as a literary genre"."

Ok, let me rephrase then:

None of it is fiction? Hmm, so how would the following stories be classified:

The Story of Adam and Eve, Noah's Ark, The Tower Of Babel, Jonah and the Whale, the Rainbow and the Promise, The Christmas Story (aka The Story of Jesus' Birth), etc?

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Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:26pm

"Yes- that stuff *is* important, but no so important IMO that 1-3yrs (or even 5-6) is going to make a huge impact if a mother wants to be home for her child during the early or even through the pre-school aged years. So long as she keeps herself employable (which is easier to do in many cases than some might think, especially with more and more companies recognizing that mothers are a highly desireable commodity (studies showing that mothers make great managers etc. etc. etc.) "


Oh I disagree.

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