how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:56am

I'm confused too. This is because when I read momfhk's posts, I can't get a clear picture of whether she's relabeling the things all involved parents do as "homneschooling projects". Or whether she's requiring her daughter to do double the amount of schoolwork that either a regularly schooled or homeschooled child has to do (insofar as her dd has to do both and gets no downtime). Thus my posts waffle back and forth between thinking that momfhk merely observes what books her dd chooses to read for fun and then asks questions about them (involved parenting incorrectly labeled as homeschooling) or whether she hands her dd a reading list and assigns her books, thus taking away one of childhood's great joys, the serendipitous book. And that's just the part about books. Then there's all the craft projects. Did dd decide to make candles? (I used to do that all the time as a kid, mom's involvement was limited to making sure I didn't spill wax all over everything). Or was it an assignment? Does her dd get to do things that are just FUN for the sake of fun? Or must everything she does be chosen by mom and be educational? Two very different things that could be described exactly the same way in momfhk's posts.

I really can't tell from momfhk's curriculum list and descriptions. It really could go either way.

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Registered: 10-16-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:07am

No no no...

You misunderstood me. I was agreeing with you. I think your point was to let kids explore things for themselves. I was totally in agreement with you.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:14am

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So when you start homeschooling who will be checking up on your children?


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But momofhk calls this homeschooling.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:28am
But it also doesn't have thing one to do with the concept of peer influence superceding parental influence.

Karen

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:32am

and since you aren't debating....therefore you are just posting your opinions.


PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:36am
It's pretty hard to be a WAHM without othercare.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:43am
As someone who grew up multilingual, and someone who married a multilingual immigrant, and someone who has multilingual kids, as well as someone who is ESL certified and conducted her master's degree focus in second language acquisition (from English to Slavic, most notably), I just wanted to comment that I completely agree with everything you have written here.
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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:45am
I think you might be underestimating the complex and multiple benefits of "simple financial gain."

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Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:49am
You have to go in board settings and make sure the "Hide Signatures" box isn't checked.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 10:50am
How do you, personally, decide if a source is credible or not (other than if it reinforces what you already believe)?

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