how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 11:49am
"A strange factoid in our True-but-Inconvenient file is the children always end up with the language and accent of their peers, not of their parents." Huh? I've never, ever heard of any child, anywhere, who learned a language of their peers and did not know the language their parents spoke at home as well.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 11:50am

How about acknowledgment of sources posted on the other side?

See post 1141: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=15792.1141

Jessica

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 11:55am

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The Story of Adam and Eve, Noah's Ark, The Tower Of Babel, Jonah and the Whale, the Rainbow and the Promise, The Christmas Story (aka The Story of Jesus' Birth), etc?>>

In libraries, the Bible is classified as "non-fiction". 220 in the dewey decimal system--not literature, mind you, which is the 800s. Even the children's bible stories are categorized in non-fiction. Noah's Ark, a picture book, is 222.

Jessica

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:05pm

I am beginning to think based on my recent debates with others that I have been using a completely different dictionary than the one they are using.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:17pm

How late do kids need to sleep?


I lived 3 miles from school and spent 30 minutes on the bus.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:36pm

But my debate point is that the potential harm of the mother not WOH during the 5 or 6 years we're discussing (not to mention if there are more children following along after the first, which could extend those years) could very well be a bad thing.


I'm not arguing that because any harm to the child or to the mother/child bond is not quantifiable that it doesn't matter, but that you have to weigh those intangible negatives against the tangible, objective loss of income and potential accompanying financial stability.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:46pm

"There are various ways to homeschool- some are more formal and "classroom based" than others- but often parents of homeschooled children allow their children's interests to at least partially dictate the lessons learned. (Of course some things are absolutely required as a part of a well rounded education, but still...)"

You are correct. There are various ways to homeschool. BTW, We happen to like the unschooling route :)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:51pm

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"I don't really know why you don't consider caregivers/teachers to be one AND the same. I certainly do."

Fine by me, it's a free country. I certainly don't have a problem with the fact that we are both entitled to have our own individual opinions :) Is it a problem for you?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 12:56pm

"Exactly. John went to bed every night at 7pm when he was an infant"

*He* "went" to bed?

Or was *he* "put" to bed?

"Why? Because he had to be up 5:am."

Why would an infant "have to be up at 5 am?"

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 1:20pm

"LOL, I know a biased site when I see one. It's not up to me to prove your site isn't credible"

Uh huh, just as I thought :)

"it's up to you to defend it's credibility."

I'm not the one who made the claim that it's not credible.

"I don't have to prove anything."

Again, I'm not the one who made the claim. Therefore, it's your job to prove your claim, not my job to disprove it.

"You are the one trying to use the site to win your argument."

Didn't we already have the "there is no winner" discussion?

"I have told you I don't buy what this site is selling."

And you're certainly welcome to your opinion. However, *your* opinion doesn't = objective truth.

"One site doesn't prove anything."

What about the NICHD study? Is it not credibile as well?

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