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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Sounds great...now I am hungry and it's a long way to dinner.
PumpkinAngel
You bad!!
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
Bill Murray wakes up. He hears the EXACT SAME dj patter that he heard the previous dozen mornings and he can quote it by now. He's ok with it.
Bill Murray steps over the puddle. He doesn't fall in this time.
Bill Murray does not make wiseass comments about Puxatawney Phil. He's grown somewhat fond of the little guy over this past week.
Bill Murray realizes he loves this woman and if he stops being such a self-absorbed jerk and steps into her world, his life will be better and his heart will be bigger.
Thank you Bill Murray.
Good! That means Harris is full of crap and my days spent as a SAHM have some MEANING!
Just kidding. I don't mind that you disagree with her language stuff. It really is hard on a debate board to give someone else's theory (actually, just some of her supporting arguments of the theory), one that takes HER 450 pages to explain, and be accurate. I still do recommend the book. It might infuriate you, but the fact that she is completely outside of the establishment, critical of the social research and interpretations made and readily accepted over the years, will greatly appeal to the rebel scientist in you. (If you can bear to read about soft science!)
If I have time, I'll come back to explain the factoid-language-with peers thing better. She has one very specific example of this.
"Or whether she's requiring her daughter to do double the amount of schoolwork that either a regularly schooled or homeschooled child has to do (insofar as her dd has to do both and gets no downtime)."
I've already explained this. During the summer, weekends, and misc. breaks/holidays 4 of 13 hours is spent on homeschooling activities, thus leaving plenty of time for freetime/ downtime. During the regular school week, 2.5 of 6 hours is spent on such activites, thus once again leaving plenty of time for freetime/downtime.
"(involved parenting incorrectly labeled as homeschooling)"
What does it matter to you whether these activities are labeled as homeschooling, unschooling, deschooling, enrichment, etc? They are still the same activities regardless of how they are labeled, are they not?
"or whether she hands her dd a reading list and assigns her books,"
No, books and book lists are generally assigned at school LOL. What part of child-led do you not understand :)
"Then there's all the craft projects. Did dd decide to make candles?"
Yes. Btw, the kit was a birthday gift from a friend.
"Or was it an assignment?"
Not unless you consider a birthday gift an assignment LOL.
"Does her dd get to do things that are just FUN for the sake of fun?"
What about making candles isn't FUN just for the sake of fun? Or anything else that my dd *chooses* based on her own personal interests? Am I supposed to tell her no, you can't write your own songs, poems, and stories? No, I'm not going show you how to do double digit multiplication or division with remainders. No, you can't read that 800+ page book. No, you can't make your own A-Z Science Book, A Famous Landmark Book, or An Animal Encyclopedia. No, you can't play your guitar, or make your own chalk, playdough, or soap.
No, of course you can't *choose* to do activities that *you* are interested in and consider FUN. Why? Because other parents and adults don't think they are FUN just for the sake of FUN, that's why. Good Grief! Do you know how ridiculous that sounds.
"and since you aren't debating....therefore you are just posting your opinions."
Aren't debating?
Clearly you and I have very different ideas about what constitutes debating, among other things LOL :)
"I won't be crying big ole tears when you come back a year from now and say, once again, you are homeschooling."
Good! Glad to hear it!
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