how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 1:03pm

I know wohm who choose their jobs because they didn't want to use othercare.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 1:09pm
I've already done my time with the Little People farm this morning! ;)

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 2:20pm

Where I live, those choices are pretty pedestrian.

Can I ask why you assume that she has a "rock solid" bond with her dd? I haven't seen very much about that topic.

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:01pm

***But she just didn't own the coffee shop, she searched it out, bought it with her earnings and then planted the coffee shop so to speak.***

Are you still suggesting that she actually planted it? Would you please go into what exactly this woman in your opinion would be doing from the start of the purchase through the harvest? *curious* What exactly do you feel her role and active hands-on participation would have been as far as the vineyard is concerned?

***Why would that be likely?***

Because if the object is to bring in an income, one wouldn't want to waste their time finding a market if a market is already available. Rather than using the time to find someone to do the selling for her (merchant) a business savvy woman would take the time initially to find the best market for her product and then stick with it so as to better utilize her time *making* the product.

***I know someone who...***

So- you're basing your perspective here on the experience of one person? Granted it takes a bit to get ones foot into the door, but once that happens, almost all of the work is done from the base of operations (in this case, the home).

***But that is not what the passages states, now and then. It states "15 She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls.***

So she purchases her food in the market place and cooks it.

***17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.***

Yes- being strong was a plus for anyone of that time- work (any work, domestic or otherwise) was very difficult not having the time/labor saving devices we have today. This still doesn't say she's planting a field with those arms ;)

***18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.***

Ever run out of toilet paper or milk at home without realizing it beforehand? This woman doesn't. She finds the best deals and stocks her home appropriately. What does that have to do with WOH?

***Based on what?***

Based on the historical period in question and common sense of how the wealthy have lived throughout much of history.

***If they work in the home, I would call them wahm's. If they work outside the home, I would call them wohms.***

Then, again, SAHM's are in fact WAHM's. Unless a woman is exceptionally lazy, none of us are technically SAHM's. '

I'm not ignoring the rest of your post- just pondering some points :)

Wytchy

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:02pm

I was trying to say the same thing in another post. I feel the same way you do, but of course you said it much, much better.

Jessica

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 4:31pm

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Yes I am based on the verse which says she plants the vineyard.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 08-10-2005 - 7:26pm
It's just an impression I get. She makes one-on-one time a priority and that makes for a happy child. It's a different approach than my circumstances allow, but it sounds like the goal is just like mine.
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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 11:04am
What kinds of WAH work do your friends and acquaintances engage in that doesn't require childcare?

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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 2:35pm

"The Creation Story, like most ancient myths (historical or not; some stories with a mythical purpose are indeed retellings of actual events) explained for an ancient people the age-old question of how and why the world came to be. It explained, in a rational way, the order of creation and how the world came to be; that it was "good" and that it was mankind's job to care for the Creation."

How is The Creation Story a rational explanation of "the order of creation and how the world came to be?" Isn't this in direct conflict with Science/Logic/Rational thought (i.e.. the Big Bang and the process of evolution through natural selection)?

"The Adam and Eve Story tells the story of ancient ancestors -- "adam" simply means "man" and the name Eve implies a priordial "mother of all living."

But isn't the Adam and Eve Story in direct conflict with Science/Logic/Rational thought (i.e.. the Big Bang and the process of evolution through natural selection)?

"The Flood/Rainbow and Promise stories all contain warnings against evil;"

Again, isn't this in direct conflict with Science/Logic/Rational thought?

"The Tower of Babel story explains, for ancient peoples, the existence of separate peoples and languages."

And once again, isn't this is direct conflict with Science/Logic/Rational thought?

"All ancient stories are "real" in that sense -- in order to survive as ancient stories/myths, they have to have some inner truth and reality that makes it worthwhile for people to keep telling them and passing them to their offspring."

Real? Inner truth and reality? Such as? So, do you think the story of Achilles, Paul Bunyon, Little Red Riding Hood, etc are "real" too?

"Most ancient stories are true. And some of them actually happened."

Do you believe that these stories are true? Do you think that they actually happened? If so, which ones and why?

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Thu, 08-11-2005 - 2:44pm

"I'm a professor of history, not a literary professor. But she knows that."

No I didn't know this. I knew you were a professor, but I didn't know of what :)

"And she also knows that you can't enlighten her, since she really isn't interested in learning anything."

On the contrary, I'm very interested in learning why you think The Creation Strory, The Story of Adam and Eve, Noah's Ark, The Tower of Babel, The Christmas Story, etc. are rational as well as why you think they are real.

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