how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:06pm
And exactly *how* does it matter if a kid sleeps 7-5 instead of 8-6 or something other?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:07pm
Did she really have any practical alternative?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:08pm

I totally agree....a quiet house is a treat sometimes.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:09pm

Of course.....I didn't have a doubt, not one single one.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:10pm
Sounds nice..... (as I listen to three 5-6 yr old boys playing like crazy men in the bedroom)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:23pm
Could have fooled me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:31pm

"And do you disagree with the reason why he had to be up at 5 am?"

Not with the reason, but with the fact that she insists that it is *he* who has to be up at 5 am, rather than *she* who needs him to be up at this time.

"Why do you let your dd stay up until 10 pm every night"

Where did I say that? BTW, why do you use the term "let her"?

"Don't you want to spend alone time with your husband at night?"

Not particularly, we get plenty of alone time during the day. BTW, do you mean alone time as in time as a couple? Or do you mean alone time as in time without kids?

BTW, what exactly does alone time with your dh have to do with your children's bedtime?

Strangely enough, *their* bedtime certainly seems to be more about *you*, than *them*.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:42pm

"I think it takes up alot of time to try to label everything a child does into an educational experience."

Not for us :)

"Like Suzy said, a child should be able to be a child."

Hmm, isn't learning a big part of being a child? Isn't it a big part of childhood? Surely you realize that people learn more as children than they do at any other time in their lives?

"There is a time to learn and a time to have fun."

Well, some people think that learning *is* fun.

In fact, some people think that learning and fun are one in the same :)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:53pm

"LTB, those choices only become controversial when she tries to play them off as "optimal" or "ideal" for ALL families, not just her own."

Hmm, I haven't used the words "optimal" or "ideal" anywhere in this thread.

Likewise, I haven't said that these choices are "optimal" or "ideal" for ALL families anywhere in this thread either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 4:54pm

I used "let her" because I assume at age 8 or 9, she goes to bed when you put her to bed.


"BTW, what exactly does alone time with your dh have to do with your children's bedtime?"


If my children don't go to bed before I do, I get no time for conversation or physical intimacy with my husband.

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