how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 10:26am

I did. But not for the younger grades. I worked ft out of the home while homeschooling the middle school grades. I worked afternoons/evenings, did lessons plans for 3 months in advance and was available for teaching/questions in the mornings and weekends. My girls were mostly independent learners by that time and homeschooling was our routine by that time. I didn't work outside the home while homeschooling K-5th grades but I did work at home. We had "school" in the mornings and I worked at home in the afternoon and evenings.

Chris

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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 2:01pm

I like to put my 9 year old and 13 year old kids to bed, still. I like having a few moments one on one, in the dark, for a chat and a snuggle, with each of them. We still read together and pray together almost every night. I miss it when it doesn't happen.

I also enjoy a few minutes alone every morning and every night before the kids are up and after they are in bed. And since we haven't had any little people in our bed on a regular basis for quite a while now, I am finding that I am enjoying a renewed relationship with my husband. It was great when the kids WERE there; it is great again now that they are out.
Some kids do get lonely in cribs or sleeping alone. Some kids don't. Some kids don't even like co-sleeping. A hard and fast rule about who sleeps where gets a lot of people in trouble -- on all sides of the issue.

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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 2:14pm
I co-slept with ds for a long time, but dd hated it.
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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 2:25pm

My older one was quite the cuddler and co-sleeper, so we just assumed that DS#2 would be, too. He went to bed easily by himself in the evenings (in the cage, lol) and when he woke up for a feeding around 10 or 11 pm, I would bring him to bed with us and he would stay with us the rest of the night. Around the time he was about four months old, he began sleeping more fitfully and waking up a lot at night. I thought it was because of teething -- the older one had gotten his first teeth at three months, so I figured we were a family of early teethers. One night after being awakened three or four times in a couple hour span, I put the kid in the crib in desperation. He actually sighed in happiness as he kicked loose and lay with his little arms and legs all askew and loose -- and didn't wake up again and has slept through the night in the Vesuvian Man position ever since. Go figure.

He's quite the cuddler nowadays, just not at night. Shoulda figured. His Daddy doesn't like to be touched while he's asleep, either. Wants you right there, just don't try to snuggle!

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 08-13-2005 - 2:27pm
I personally hope that while she's at it, she refutes the notions that the earth is flat, that maggots arise spontaneously from rotting meat, and that the moon is made of green cheese. The fact that no one here actually believes any of these things won't deter her, and on days when I have nothing else to do, she's kind of fun to watch.
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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 2:34pm

One more time, then I am done.

Science and religion are not in direct conflict because they ask different questions. Science does not ask WHY the world came into being, but how. It wants natural answers.

Going back to the old watch analogy, science can tell us, by looking at the watch, how a watch was made, what its component parts are, how those parts are assembled and in what likely order, where the parts might have originated from, etc. What it can't tell simply by looking at the watch, is anything much about the absent watchmaker. That would require information not available to the scientist. It would require questions that the scientist is not interested in asking and often not even interested in asking.

Religious questions tend to center on speculation about the watchmaker and why the watch was made in the first place. Sometimes theologians try to infer things about the watchmaker by looking at the way the watch was made; sometimes they refer to a whole 'nother set of tools.

These questions are not in direct conflict. They are different questions. Asking about the watchmaker won't tell you how the gears work. Finding out how the gears work won't tell you who made it and why. They are different questions, but not in conflict with each other.

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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 8:58pm

<<"Why are *adults* needs not important?" I never said they weren't.>> You imply that all the time. Karen's "need" to be on the job or risk going to jail for being AWOL.

<<"I don't understand the "all for the child" attitude." Nor do I.>> Really? Could have fooled me.

<> "Adult led?" You mean, that the child has to adapt to an adult's work schedule? Heaven forbid. Needs and *convenience* of adults? You're making a mountain out of a mole hill. It won't hurt the child to "adapt" to the schedule of the adult. You know, the one who is providing for the child?

<> BTW, I didn't outline a scenario. Most of your posts imply things *should* revolve around kids.

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Sat, 08-13-2005 - 9:45pm

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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 9:46pm
I had advanced classes too, but managed to get to bed by 10 pm in high school.

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Sun, 08-14-2005 - 9:53pm

Yes, you're very lucky.

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