how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:12am

OK.... But what does that have to do with my post? I was talking about breastfeeding and the reply was about homeschooling...

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:44am

Must be nice. I've never run into a situation where it was possible- although certainly I'm sure as you say they exist. I just don't believe that they're the 'norm'. Sure- it's almost required that they give time/place to pump, but to actually bring your child to work with you so you can nurse? I haven't seen it. Or are you saying that employees can go home or wherever? And wouldn't that be difficult to do unless one lived very nearby and had a fast nurser? I mean, I don't know of many employers who would tolerate multiple lengthy absences per day..... How would one get their work done?

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:55am
Sounds like Hinduism to me.

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:29am

***It's my understanding that extended nursing isn't a common situation among either WOHMs or SAHMs.***

I wouldn't call nursing from b-12mo "extended" nursing, but I agree, it's not common in our culture. But that's not really what I was getting at.

***People who talk about WOHMs as if the only choice was 50 hours of daycare from age six weeks or SAHM exclusively bug me, because that's really not the only option open to most of us.***

I'm certainly not suggesting that's the only choice, or even necessarily the most prevalent. It is, however, fairly common among the FT 9-5 set. (Perhaps not starting at 6weeks, but often the near 50hr daycare week). With a 40hr workweek and some form of commute, that's the reality for many full time WOHM's.

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:33am

I consider my nightly bath (and often morning shower) 'me time'. I have to bathe (and yeah- OK, at sometimes twice a day I can be a bit obsessive LOL!), but I enjoy the process. Even a short shower becomes a retreat with some nice scented shower gel, some music and a nice fluffy towel ;)

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:40am

"home·school or home-school ( P ) Pronunciation Key (hmskl)
v. home·schooled, home·school·ing, home·schools
v. tr.
To instruct (a pupil, for example) in an educational program outside of established schools, especially in the home.

n.
A school operated outside established educational institutions, especially in a home."

Hmmmm....... I can see this from both sides after looking more closely at the definition of homeschooling... One can argue that "outside of (established schools)" means 'to the exclusion of', or one can argue (as you are doing) that it simply means that the education provided isn't a part of the aforementioned established schools... Still- when I think of homeschooling, like most people here, I think of something done *instead of* formal schooling not as a supplemental. But whatever :)

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:41am

I guess it depends on how you see "me time." I am constantly interuppted in the shower so it is not me time. I am an only parent so I am constantly on. The only time I truly have me time is when a grandparent takes them for an extended period of time.


I do, though, cut out time for myself. While they play outside, I sit and read a book. While the youngest plays with cars or watches television, I can post. I don't consider it me time in the fullest sense of the word because I can be needed at any time.


With a three year old and an eight year old, I can carve out more time for myself than I could when they were younger.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:47am

*Chuckle*- well- if that's how we're defining 'me time'- take that 2hrs a day and make it *maybe* 2hrs a week... If I'm lucky LOL ;) I consider 'me time' to be time that I can engage in enjoyable pursuits- even if they are or may be interrupted by those other obligations. Like right now for instance- I'm having a moment of 'me time' while I finish up my cup of coffee and the kids play together. I'm still obligated to them- if they need something while I'm here doin my thing then I need to tend to them, but other than that- it's 'mine'.

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 11:56am

Well, we weren't discussing women bringing infants to work.

Karen

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Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:17pm

Did you check out that link I gave you that listed the states and their regulations?

PumpkinAngel

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