how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 11-25-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 9:56pm

I know. My husband and I have been known to argue about who gets to stay home when it is on the list. We've also been known to both call in ;o}

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:17pm

You forgot Eddie Bauer, Old Navy, and for those who are younger than a certain age, Torrid and Alight. (I just CAN'T shop at either of the latter; I'm old enough to have worn those clothes the first time 'round, so I forever associate those styles with being in HS, which is a mental place that I will not willingly revisit.)

I'm an Eddie Bauer girl, myself.

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:23pm

I agree - many people are far better at balancing their lives, my mother was not. She was a partner in an accounting firm, so a very demanding career. And 7 children. Dividing her attention between 7 children as a sahp would have been a challenge! lol.

My father passed away - she did re-marry but never believed or felt my step father should be responsible for us in any way. I think she almost felt that was a betrayal to my father. Prior to my father's death, she didn't work as hard as she did after. I really think she was obsessed with ensuring we had "enough", but it was never enough. She is 68 years old and still works 10 hours per day - in her retirement! Certainly NOT because she has to, but because she can never have enough. She and my step father are very well off. My heart breaks for her though, knowing how regretful she is about the past.

Nick

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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:23pm

I am sure I am opening a whole can of worms but.....aren't vaccinations often weakened or similar strains of a disease so that the body will fight off a weaker version of a much bigger disease therefore making ones immune system stronger?


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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:29pm

She doesn't think it is all about her. She doesn't dwell on the past either. In fact, during this conversation she said almost exactly what you did, only with some feeling. She said that she can't change the past, and that they are adults and have to sort out their own issues. I think looking back on your life and thinking about what you would have done differently is a very common normal thing to do.

Nick

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:29pm
I haven't found any plus sizes, or sizes bigger than 14, at our local Old Navy. :(

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:36pm

I don't disagree with you at all. As I said before, my mom did not balance well. At all. She sucked at it. I'm afraid I inherited that gene lol. And of course, there were many other contributing factors, including the death of my birth father.

Someone said something to the effect of my siblings wanting my mom to have these regrets. Not true!! They don't even know she has them! This was a private conversation between me and my mother. It was a wonderful conversation - it was not a pity party - my mother is not one to elicit pity. She is a pillar of strength. She was simply confiding her thoughts about the past and what has contributed to my sister's difficulties with me.

BTW, nice to *see* you!

Nick

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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 10:38pm

I'm an LLBean and LandsEnd girl myself.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:41am
Not all of the stores have a full Plus size selection, but most of them carry their work-suitable styles up to size 20. You tend to have to visit a larger store or shop on the web if you want to see the full range of Old Navy Plus. (I think the full range goes to size 26.)
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 6:53am

"Although you may think otherwise, your dd was exposed to minor illnesses and is all the stronger for it. She NEEDED that."

Of course, she was exposed to minor illnesses. However, young infants and children certainly do not need to go to dc in order for this to occur.

"In your final paragraph you noted that she had colds and stomache bugs. What are those, if not minor illnesses?"

I didn't say they weren't minor illnesses.

"Breastmilk contains protective antibodies only to those illnesses that the mother has been exposed to herself and is immune to."

Actually, according to the U.S. Food and Drug Administration, Breastmilk contains protective antibodies from a number of illnesses.

http://www.fda.gov/fdac/features/895_brstfeed.html

"Because human milk transfers to the infant the mother's antibodies to disease, breast-fed babies have fewer illnesses. About 80 percent of the cells in breast milk are macrophages, cells that kill bacteria, fungi, and viruses. Breastfed babies are protected, in varying degrees from a number of illnesses, including pneumonia, botulism, broncitis, staphylococcal infections, influenza, ear infections, and German measles. Furthermore, mothers produce antibodies to whatever disease is present in their environment, making their milk custom-designed to fight the diseases their babies are exposed to as well."

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