how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:35am

"Natural" as in "biologically consistent", you know - one of your favorite phrases. Humans were clearly adapted to undergo major immune development *early* in life. The lack of that stimulation predisposes some individuals to immune problems later on ie leukemia and asthma (and possibly other disorders)." So the increased rates minor illnesses that kids in group care experience compared to those at home is not a down-side of daycare. It is, in fact, more "natural" than the semi-seclusion you describe with your lifestyle."

Why not simply breastfeed then? What is the benefit of exposing infants and toddlers to an increased number of illnesses via group day care? What is the benefit of increasing the number of actual illnesses they contract via group day care? If the same, if not better results can be achieved through breastfeeding, why put young children through something that is clearly unnecessary?

"So the increased rates minor illnesses that kids in group care experience compared to those at home is not a down-side of daycare. It is, in fact, more "natural" than the semi-seclusion you describe with your lifestyle."

Are you suggesting that it is *natural* for young children to be in group care, cared for substitutes who are unrelated to them, for long periods of time? How so?

Also, why do you describe my lifestyle as semi-seclusion?

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:35am

<< I certainly consider volunteering in the classrom as beneficial/making a difference in the long run as well. >>


Well, our teachers disagree. With the exception of special times, they don't want moms in the classroom everyday. They find it interferes with the learning process. The kids needs instructional time with the teacher; not feel good time with mom. If they needed feel-good time with mom, why are they at school.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:37am
Dd was exclusively breastfed. Never had a bottle (oops, i'm wrong .. one bottle in the NICU). She went frombreast to cup at 9 months. Her choice. I was rather saddened that she weaned herself.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:37am

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pot, meet kettle


Does this mean you wont' post anything that isn't directly relevant either? If so, we'll miss ya ...

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:40am
Dd is studying marine biology today. Monday she was studying doing research for the Fish and Wildlife Service. Tuesday she was preparing for the Olympic swimming trials. She's taking thursday and friday off.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:41am

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That is a large majority of what the volunteer parents in our school do as well.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:41am
Pssst, twins aren't born at the EXACT same time. One is always older.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:43am

"What you describe is not natural."

How so? Could you please elaborate?

"But anyway, naturally, the way you are trying to define it, all a baby has is mommy."

So, mommy got herself pregnant all on her own LOL.

"Naturally, in your version, there is no daddy."

Of course, there's a daddy. Daddy can be physically and emotionally present while mommy is bfing the baby, daddy can be physically and emotionally supportive while mommy is bfing the baby, daddy can wear the baby in a sling, daddy can provide parental care, daddy can co-sleep with the baby, etc.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:44am

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What is reflected in most parents?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 10:45am

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Is mommy in that sling too? Because earlier you posted something about CONSTANT mother-child contact.

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