how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:19am

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Are you saying that bottles, formula

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:21am

"The point is that breast feeding does not guarentee that your baby is not going to have colds ear inf. etc.. "

You are correct, but certainly the duration of bfing can greatly increase the immunological benefits. Again, how long did you breastfeed them? BTW, my sister has boy/boy twins. She was able to breastfeed for 3 months. Just curious about your experience.

"And lol yes twin A is 10 minutes older."

My nephews were 3 minutes apart, but strangely enough they both weighed and measured exactly the same (6 lbs 3 oz - 20 inches). Can you imagine 12.5 lbs of baby? We mistakening concluded that they must be identical, but after a few weeks it was clear that they were fraternal. How much did your twins weigh/measure?

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:25am

"Is mommy in that sling too? Because earlier you posted something about CONSTANT mother-child contact."

Hmm, CONSTANT mother-child contact, doesn't necessarily mean CONSTANT bodily contact?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:31am

"Are you the only one in your dd's class that know all of the classmates and personal things about them?"

Not at all :)

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"Because at times it is?"

Then obviously parents wouldn't be invited during those times (state testing comes to mind), now would they?

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:31am
Thank you!
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:33am

"Pssst, twins aren't born at the EXACT same time. One is always older."

Pssst, my sister has twins and I was in the delivery room when they were born :)

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:35am

Big Hugs to You!!


I hope that the streoids can stop this disease.


We lost our beloved Marin in December at 12 years. She had developed diabetes and I think that our vet did not suspect it at her previous exams. She was losing her eyesight and she eventually lost her bladder control. Our 9 year old gave her her shots and meassured her special food.


It was horrible. I can barely drive by the vet let alone take out Ginger there. Our 6 year old talks about her all of the time. He says how she is in heaven playing with Sasha and Haily (our neighbors dogs) Oh and the dear he say dead on the side of the highway.


I am hoping that your prince is getting better!!


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:36am

Exposing kids to minor illnesses and breastfeeding actually DON'T achieve the same results. Breastfeeding gives passive immunity. Being exposed to the illness gives active immunity.

Passive immunity is when the baby passively is protected by the mother's immune system. The baby doesn't get to KEEP these immune protections. They are borrowed. Evolutionarily it has been important because it gives the baby temporary protection when their own newbie immune system isn't yet fully up and running. Babies drinking formula wouldn't have these protections, but in a 1st world country that's ok. We clean the water pretty well, have excellent sewage treatment, and vaccinate in large numbers. So the protections of breastmilk aren't the life-or-death proposition that they are in the 3rd world.

Active immunity is the kind you get when your immune system is doing all the work itself. It lasts because it isn't just a loaner from mom. This is the type of protection-via-minor-illness that kids in dc get. Although dc is hardly the only way to get it. Minor illnesses (yes, those ARE infections) are available to breastfed babies of SAHMs too via sibs and other family, the playground, the grocery store etc.

Passive immunity is not a substiute for active immunity. It's a temporary help.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:37am
So, how are you and this infant staying in contact? Cell phone? fax? voice mail? blackberry?

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:37am

I believe it!! Our friends have b/g twins and they are 12 and Emily said that people woould and still ask if they are identical. She is like think about it. My brother has a penis and I don't. lol


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