how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:52am

"She went frombreast to cup at 9 months."

So, you've been a SAHM and a WOHM? I would have guessed, based on your posts that you'd always been a WOHM. How long were you able to SAH?

BTW, My dd started using a cup a 5 months, however she continued to breastfeed as well.

"Her choice. I was rather saddened that she weaned herself."

So, she went from breast to cup, cold turkey at 9 months? Surely, you meant to say it took a couple of weeks, even months to make the transition?

BTW, what about your son?

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:57am

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And yet you're able to tell whether a child has a SAHP or not?


With dd I WAH for about 9 months, then went to work PTWOH for the next year, returning FT WOHM when she was about 2.


With ds I was a SAHM for over a year.


I would have been *able* to SAH for much longer ...

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:58am

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Ummm, no. Did I say that?


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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:59am

Oh! I am so sorry to hear that! I hope he is going to be okay, what did the vet say about recovery??


We found out not long ago that our little french bulldog has a form of degenerative athritis (cant remember the term they used). Its one of those things that they cannot do a thing about either, we just have to keep her fit and healthy, and I give her a dog version of glucosemene, and we just keep our fingers crossed that it doesnt cripple her somewhere down the road.


take care!

Dj

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:00pm

Darn, I keep hitting post andforgetting to answer the rest, lol


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I bf him for about 4.5 months. He had a milk protein intolerance and the strict diet of no dairy was just too taxing for me to undertake for any longer. I also had very poor milk production. He was much happier and healthier when we switched him to formula.

The JACKAL


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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:11pm
Poor DH.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:15pm

Oh I'll play too.


This month, we've spent about $1500 so far on landscaping our front yard (easily could have been 5-10x that amount if we werent doing all the grunt work ourselves!)


$450 on special out of state volleyball camp for dd, plus another $500 for a last minute plane ticket because I screwed up regarding some info on my flight benefits (I thought they were valid on a certain carrier, found out they werent about 3 days before dd was to leave! Ouch!)


Today we are going to see Charlie and the Chocolate factory as a family, that will be over $50 for the 4 of us by the time drinks and popcorn are purchased!


One thing that irks me is the assumption that women are working for material things for THEMSELVES. These assumptions are obviously NOT coming from the parents of teens, LOL. I work so my children can have all those little *extras* that make life easier and more fun for them, things that might not be important in the grand scheme of things, but are important to a young teen trying to find their way within their peer group and such. I dont believe in being excessive with *stuff* with my kids, but I do like to be able to buy my dd some nicer clothing (huge holdover from my childhood, I *never* had nice clothes that were the *in* styles!!) and I do like being able to do fun things for her that make her feel good about herself-like taking her to get her hair highlighted once as a surprise ($100), and then out to a nice dinner at the restaurant where I work ($80 for the 2 of us).


My children enjoy having a nice home to bring their friends to, they enjoy being able to have a computer and decent sports equipment, and to be able to PLAY those sports (our high school activity fee is $125!!!). I love being able to travel with them, take them to movies and out to eat, etc. All

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 02-11-2005
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:19pm
>>we don't have a heavy load of testing that is required by the stat
i think private schools down here are busting at the seams with crowds of public school families wanting to get in......for this *very* reason..unfortunately, some fit the mold, others don't. *sigh*
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:21pm

Poor guy....his known world is just falling apart.


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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 12:31pm

See? You have to work just to support the pets! I'm sorry to hear about your bulldog. Our rat dog has the same condition and is also taking supplements. The recovery for prince charming dog is good (knock on wood). He has the acute version and we caught it fast. Apparently, it can go from acute to chronic pretty quickly and the dog then cannot open his mouth more than a 1/2" or so for the rest of its life. Unbelievable. He goes back in 7 days for a check up.

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