how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:53pm

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:55pm
LOL....No, John's nickname is Voldemort ;)

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:55pm
Oh no! Poor puppy. Good grief, when your dogs go in for vet treatment, they really do go all in, don't they? Yikes. I hope he (and you) are feeling better soon.
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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:56pm

No they aren't.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:57pm

Why would you think that?


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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:57pm

"I certainly consider spending time in parental care, rather than in substitute care as beneficial/making a difference in the long run, especially when children are infants, toddlers, preschoolers (but also for school-aged children when it comes to before and after school and over breaks especially summer break)."

But you haven't yet given a single concrete set of statiscs showing any difference, nor have you ever described what exactly you expect to be different about children who have attended afterschool care vs. children who have never attended afterschool care. What exactly do you expect to see?

"I certainly consider volunteering in the classrom as beneficial/making a difference in the long run as well."

But your entire description that follows is all about the benefits to *you* not really the benefits for the kids. There is an entire continent out there (most of Europe) where parent volunteers in the classroom are not desired nor particularly welcome...regardless of the work status of the parents (i.e. equally true in Switzerland with mostly SAHMs and Sweden with mostly WOHMs). Interestingly, students from these countries performed overall MUCH better on the latest PISA tests than children from the US. Perhaps less time should be spent on recruiting parent volunteers and more effort should be put into hiring sufficient numbers of qualified teachers for schools in the US? And do you seriously imagine that parents have to volunteer in the classroom for kids to see their teachers as role models?? You've got to get out more.....

Laura

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:59pm

"What? Parents aren't allowed to go in and get their children themsleves? How absurd?"

My kids have been in two different schools. At neither school were parents allowed to go in and pick up their kids. You have to meet your kids outside. Imagine the chaos (and security implications) of adding all those parents to the halls that are already crowded with kids getting ready to leave.

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 2:00pm

Yes, I lurked there too...He Who Shall Not Be Named...lol


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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 2:00pm

Are you trying to sneak tips for when you start teaching in the fall?

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Wed, 07-27-2005 - 2:05pm

Oh my god you are funny. I have twins. They didnt come out in one big pile you know. One was born at 4, the other 4.01 p.m. So one is older technically.

That said my twins had no colds at all till they were 18 months. They were exlusively fed BM from birth to 14 months. BM is best. Its wonderful. But it doesnt protect from *all* illnesses it just boosts immunity. You can still have a sick BF baby ya know....

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