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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Why do you care so much?
PumpkinAngel
Not really.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
"All kids get some amount of exposure to minor bacterial and viral illnesses."
Exactly!!!
"The point is that children in group care (or with olderr siblings, ie group care at home) get exposed to *more*. And, consequently, derive benefits from that exposure."
But is this route somehow *more* beneficial, than the NORMAL one? If so, how? From post 566:
"Again, What is the benefit of exposing infants and toddlers to an increased number of illnesses via group day care? Clearly, NORMAL (as opposed to increased) rates of minor illness is sufficient. Likewise, clearly exposure to minor illnesses via sibs and other family, the playground, the grocery store etc. is also sufficient."
"Again, What exactly is the *BENEFIT* of increasing the number of actual illnesses they contract via group day care? Do young children somehow NEED to contract an *increased* number of *actual* illnesses? Do they somehow NEED to contract an *increased* number of *actual* illnesses via group day care specifically? I don't see any reason why."
Helmets are needed
Please do not get a headache
Mine is shiny and blue
&nbs
roll on floor laughing
you've just made my day, dear
Pepsi on the screen
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"Why on earth would you take issue with grandparents babysitting?"
I don't. Perhaps you should go back and look at the context of whatever statement it is that you think I made.
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I would think so, at least
PumpkinAngel
Mine is cobalt blue with silver stripes.
PumpkinAngel
Yeah! Let's all eat our mates (like the Black Widow). Or the fathers could eat the babies (some breeds of rabbit do this).
THAT would be so natural and optimal.
The JACKAL
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"Note that they did not lump mom, dad and grandma into one pile."
Why would they? Clearly, moms provide maternal care, dads provide paternal care, and grandparents provide extended family care.
That is to say, they didn't walk in operating under the assumption that father and grandmother care was the same as mother care."
No, of course they didn't. Again, Why would they? Clearly, moms provide maternal care, dads provide paternal care, and grandparents provide extended family care.
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