how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 4:20pm
I am just as sick as I know who
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Registered: 04-05-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 5:02pm

"Now that is ~~disgusting~~"

I have a couple of friends who use the Diva Cup and love it. One cup apparantly lasts 12 hours!

Here's the link for anyone that has no idea what I'm talking about:
http://www.divacup.com/

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Registered: 11-25-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 5:05pm
Bingo. They are comparing different care!!! You know, other care.
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Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 6:06pm
That's why they call it The Keeper!

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
flat in others,
and really annoying when it's stuck in your head."

Karen

"A pocketknife is like a melody;
sharp in some places,
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 6:27pm

I think the only cancer at issue was leukemia, not any other form of cancer. I wasn't persuaded by an alleged connection between dc and decreased incidence of leukemia. If there were a credible connection, I think many responsible sahp families would have rushed to register their kids for dc, myself likely among them. But that hasn't been reported as far as I know.

Does it make sense to you that the more colds, flu, stomach viruses, etc. that a child is exposed to would result in that child not getting leukemia? If so, couldn't they then find the cure for leukemia?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 6:44pm
"If so couldn't they then find a cure for leukemia?" Cure and prevention are completely unrelated. What prevents a disease (or makes it somewhat less likely) is completely unrelated to how to treat or cure it. Think of a disease, ANY disease, where you know both the prevention and the cure (if there even is a cure). Do you see any connection between them? Knowing how to prevent (or make less likely) a disease does NOT in any way mean you are that much closer to cure. Example: HIV. If you've been exposed, you can take a drug that will prevent the virus from invading cells if you take it within a day (or two?) of exposure. Creatying this drug has not brought us any closer to a cure for HIV.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 6:57pm

This is your area so maybe you can explain how repeat exposure to colds, the flu, stomach viruses and other illnesses common among younger children in dc would decrease the incidence of leukemia? IOW, what does the cold and flu have to do with cancer?

If this study were really given great weight by the medical community, shouldn't we have seen a rush of responsible parents (both sahp families and those using nannies and relative care) registering for group dc? And then, shouldn't someone be able to come up with or be closer to a cure for leukemia since we know one way to avoid leukemia?

Also, I'm confused about the exposure to illness in group care and increasing the child's immune system. Aren't cold and flu viruses always mutating? (I remember a winter 2 years ago in the US where parents panicked because they couldn't get the flu vaccine for their kids. Later, we were told, the flu virus causing so many illnesses and a few deaths that particular year was not even preventable by the vaccine - the deadly virus that year had mutated from an earlier flu virus.)

Soooo, accepting that a child's immune system will be strengthened in dc, won't they be just as open to the new viruses that are newly mutated as will the child whose immune system wasn't strengthened in dc?

I realize these are heavy questions. Just a short dissertation will do (complete with footnotes and references to the latest studies)! Thanks!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 7:34pm

The data has been around for almost a decade...a study within the last year that made a few headlines was but the newest and continues an area of research that is showing a link between development of the immune system by early challenges (froma variety of sources, not just daycare) and a healthier immune system. And you are right, there is a specific form of leukiemia that has been shown to be decreased with daycare, but the same idea has been suggested and shown to be true for asthma. Given that this is a general mechanism we are talking about and childhood cancers are (thankfully) still relatively rare within a population, there may very well be more cancers/immune-related disorders linked to early illnesses in time.

IMO and from my reading of the literature, the most likely explanation is that early challenges to the immune system stimulate immune cells to undergo differentiation sooner. There are certain mechanisms that must be set into motion in order for the body to recognize, respond, and fight off an infection. Getting those systems up and going early seems to be beneficial. Delay increases the chance taht when those necessary changes *do* take place, mistakes happen.

An analogous situation that comes to my mind in the connection between pregnancy/breastfeeding and breast cancer. There is very strong epidemiological data that having a baby young decreases a woman's chance of breast cancer. Again, the thinking is that the sooner differentiating mechanisms are set into motion, the more likely they are to be successful. Later, the checks and balances can get rusty and mistakes happen, resulting in cancer. Specifically, there is something about fully differentiating the ability to produce milk that is healthy for breast tissue. However, knowing that early differentiation is healthy and protective does not necessarily point toward an immediate cure for breast cancer. In time, maybe.

And despite the considerable scientific data on early pregnancy and breastfeeding, women continue to delay childbearing and most still do not breastfeed. Why?

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 7:38pm
See Post 625
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 07-28-2005 - 7:41pm
See post 625.

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