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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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"the benefit of increased exposure to minor illnesses is fewer cases of some forms of cancer."
So, parents put and/or should put their infants and toddlers in ft day care in order to protect them from some forms of cancer?
BTW, how many people do you know that decide(d) to use ft dc for this particular purpose?
Again IMHO, this argument is nothing more than an elaborate excuse used by ft dual WOHP's. In other words, it's not very likely that the decision to use ft dc is about protecting infants and toddlers from some forms of cancer, but rather about the alleged benefits to parents.
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No one ever said it was.
However, when someone (say a militant SAHM) says "I wont' put my baby in daycare because they'll be exposed to germs." it is a valid, factual rebuttal. Because that baby's exposure to germs can be a positive thing long-term, not the negative the SAHM claims it is.
What's ironic here is that, as I stated above, I've never heard a WOHM use the "exposure to germs" issue as a reason to use daycare (it is
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"I would say that not only is it "natural" for children to be cared for in groups by/with unrelated individuals, it is a biological imperative."
Again, let me be more specific then.
Is it "natural" for INFANTS and TODDLERS (under the age of 3) to be in group care, CARED FOR BY SUBSTITUTES WHO ARE UNRELATED TO THEM, FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME? How so?
Is it "a biological imperative" for INFANTS and TODDLERS (under the age of 3) to be in group care, CARED FOR BY SUBSTITUTES WHO ARE UNRELATED TO THEM, FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME? How so?
"Now I am thinking that either you have one child or that you have more than 1 and are home schooling or planning on it."
Yes, I only have one child. And yes, we homeschool.
"How is home schooling going?"
Very well! BTW, I'd be more than happy to share our homeschooling activities with you, if you are interested. Let me know :)
Is it "a biological imperative" for INFANTS and TODDLERS (under the age of 3) to be
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"Bingo. They are comparing different care!!! You know, other care."
Hmm, I was under the impression that the NICHD study was "The most comprehensive child care study conducted to date to determine how variations in child care are related to children's development."
http://secc.rti.org/
Could you please show us where the NICHD study claims to be a study of "other care" or "othercare"?
"Excuse me for delurking, but is there any evidence at all that children who had mothers who (had continual mother/child contact, exclusive bfing (no bottles), extended bfing, child-led weaning, co-sleeping (no cages/cribs), baby wearing, little to no use of substitute care) have any advantages over children who did not?"
Yes, not only are these practices more "natural", but there is also considerable reason to believe that they are also more "beneficial" as well.
http://www.naturalchild.com/research/breastfeeding_outcomes.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/research/harvard_attention.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/james_kimmel/nurturing_mother.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/james_mckenna/babies_need.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/jane_mcconnell.html
http://www.naturalchild.com/elliott_barker/mothering.html
"Many mothers don't want to leave their newborns in someone else's care- especially their first. Those first 12 months are a time that she'll never get back and that she very reasonably wants to be there for."
Absolutely! ITA!
"Yes, I only have one child. And yes, we homeschool."
Hmmm....interesting that you forgot to add that your "homeschooling" is in addition to an entirely unecessary 30+ hours per week of regular school.
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