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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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"Since (as you often have stated in the past) she doesn't learn anything at school (that's what she does at home with homeschooling, right?"
Where did I state that she doesn't learn anything at school LOL? Yes, I have stated that we send her to school primarily for social reasons/experiences, but this hardly means that she "doesn't learn anything at school"? I think you're making quite a leap here. BTW, even "social learning" is learning. Clearly, you misunderstood my statements :)
"Nothing wrong with unecessary if she enjoys it,"
Thanks for your blessing, but it's rather unnecessary LOL.
"but school is clearly neither biologically necessary"
Did I claim that it was?
"nor does it fulfill any function for your daughter...."
How would you know LOL? BTW, even sending her primarily for social reasons/experiences is most definately fulfilling a purpose or function.
LOL - yes it is all about me. It is to *my* benefit that my child has less risk of a terrible disease.
I (nor anyone else in the discussion) have ever suggested that acquiring benefits from early expose to illnesses was a *reason* to choose childcare. It is, however, a benefit nonetheless. And particularly en pointe in response to the you proposed down-side of frequent illnesses children in daycare experience. *YOU* linked studies showing that children in daycare get sick more often. I rebutted your argument with the fact that frequent illnesses may confer some benefits and, therefore, may not necessarily be construed as a negative of childcare.
I am not claiming early exposure to illnesses is a reason in and of itself to choose group care. But I am also not claiming that early exposure to illnesses is a down-side to group care, lol.
"When you use it to mean "in addition to", you ought to understand that literally every single poster on this board and nearly all parents also "homeschool" according to your overly broad definition."
So, you homeschool after school, on the weekends, and over holidays and breaks when school is not in session? I thought you were a ft WOHP?
Are you sure you don't want to narrow your argument down any further? How unrelated? Distant relative, next door neighbor, completely unknown to both parents and children? What constitutes a "long period of time"? Months, weeks, days, or hours?
IMO, yes, it is natural and even socially important for children (even young children and infants) to be cared for in groups that include non-relatives. Who decides exactly who the caregivers should be and for how long and for which specific child? That would be what parents are for, wouldn't it?
I think it is safe to say that we all educate our children ... on a very frequent basis. I educated dd about menstrual cycles the other day. I educated dd about vasectomies and birth control. I educated dd about catfish. I educated ds about how butter melts. I educated ds about the difference between bread and toast.
Why would you imply
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"YOU* linked studies showing that children in daycare get sick more often."
Yes. The NICHD study does show this. And...?
"I rebutted your argument"
Perhaps you mean you rebutted the NICHD's argument? BTW, just for the record, how exactly did you rebut the NICHD'S claim, "that children in daycare get sick more often," again?
"with the fact that frequent illnesses may confer some benefits"
Again, how exactly does this rebut the NICHD'S claim, "that children in daycare get sick more often?"
"and, therefore, may not necessarily be construed as a negative of childcare."
And, surely *you* can acknowledge that it may not necessarily be construed as a *positive* of childcare either.
But I am also not claiming that early exposure to illnesses is a down-side to group care, lol."
And *I* am not the one claiming that frequent illnesses is an up-side, LOL."
"IMO, yes, it is natural and even socially important for children (even young children and infants) to be cared for in groups that include non-relatives."
But is it truely "a biological imperative" as you have claimed?
Homeschooling
and school is lots of work
Child must be tired
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"Although a FT WOHM could also easily fit within the too-broad parameters of your defintion of "homeschooling". A parent wouldn't need to be with the child "homeschooling" them every moment that they are not in school."
WHo said anything about every moment LOL? On a regular daily basis, yes, but every moment, no :)
"And yes, going to the garden supply store on the weekend and picking out plants together would definately count (horticulture) so long as the parent tells the child the name of the plant and instructs them to pay attention to its growth requirements. I did it last week."
I agree. However, you and I seem to differ on the amount of time that constitutes homeschooling as well as the variety of subjects covered. Me: On a regular daily basis (covering a minimum of 7 core subjects) You: last week...(covering 1 subject...)?
"I told dd we needed to buy a plant to go next to the house and it needed to be one that liked full sun. I instructed her to look for pictures of suns on the tags of plants. Viola! Homeschooling in horticulture. And she helped me plant it too. I explained how it needs water just like her."
Wonderful. Good for you. BTW, what about your other child(ren)? Also, could you please give us a little background into your homeschooling philosophy, schedule, activities, etc. TIA! I can't wait to hear what other homeschooling parents do with their children.
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