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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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"Do you have any proof other than articles from this very biased source? I'm sorry, but I need more than "a considerable reason to believe"."
Absolutely!!! But it will be tomorrow, as my dd is using my laptop to play Jumpstart 3rd Grade, at the moment (and all my links on on that computer). See you tomorrow!
We differ on far more than what amount of time constitutes homeschooling. We differ on its defintion. My defintion- which is in line with people who actually do homeschool- is that it is used in place of, not in addition to regular school.
And here is my homeschooling philosophy: people who don't want to sends their kids to public/private school need to ensure that those kids learn all the basics that an educated child is required to know. They can teach this themselves or gather together with other parents in a homeschooling cooperative. The parents and/or other parents in the homeschooling cooperative teach the basics of math/science/english/history etc. INSTEAD of having those subjects (and other subjects) taught by paid teachers in a school.
According to this homeschooling philosophy, I'm not homeschooling and neither are you. What you are doing is no different from what any parent does. Most parents (except for the abysmally neglectful) teach their kids things whenever they are with them. The philosophy of that is that kids neede to learn how to navigate the world and SOMEBODY has to teach them that milk goes in the fridge. The activities are any activities where parent and child are together and the parent shows the child something or shows them how to do something. The schedule is...any time they are together.
When you enroll your child in school, you don't get to decide that they are just in it for the socialization. If they don't perform academically, they will flunk and be held back a grade. They don't get to go just for socialization. There is literally no school system (past preschool) which allows this. So- whether you like it or not- they are getting their academics in school. You haven't mentioned any flunking so I'll assume they are passing the tests and handing in the homework and giving the correct answer when called on. They MUST do what is expected of them academically in school. If you take them on educational outings and teach them things beyond the core basics they learn in school, you are no different from any other parent. You do not have a curriculum that goes beyond what other parents do. Other parents just call it "taking the kids to the museum" (or wherever). That you choose to call "taking the kids to the museum" a curriculum is just your own personal abuse of the language. That you choose to call "taking the kids to the museum on Saturday" a schedule is also just an abuse of the language.
True homeschoolers put their money where their mouths are. Instead of pretending that they are teaching the kids math when the kids actually learn it from Ms. Smith at school, they DON'T ENROLL the kids in school and pull out a math textbook and actually do it themselves. You are claiming to do it yourself but the real work is being done by teachers- the ones who grade the tests your kids take and the ones who get the homework your kids are assigned. You may say your kids are just in it for the socialization. But that is not true. Because the teachers will FLUNK anybody who just socializes. Your kids are in it for the academics, just like all othe other non-homeschooled kids. If not, they'd have flunked by now for not turning in their homework and not taking the tests.
Momofhk is in the minority.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeschool
And she seems to make it a competition ... she seems to compare the education her children get (via homeschooling) to the eduation other children get via public schools. To me, homeschooling shouldn't be compared to other children ... I wouldn't homeschool my dd so that she gets a better education than other children get in the public school ... I would homeschool my dd so that she gets a better education than *she* would get in the public school.
The JACKAL
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
And....my own little rant after the heck I have been through school wise today....
Sending your child to school for socialization is a cop-out. It is rude and it is disrespectful to the parents of the students that do send their kids to school for education. I work very hard through the school system to ensure Zak has his educational needs are met at school. I work very hard to make sure Zak is a contribution to the school system and not a detrement. I work very hard to supplement his lesson plans at home and also to make sure he respects his teacher and his school and he does his homework.
What a cop out to say you are just sending your child for socialization. What a waste of tax payer money and a waste of school resources. Send your child to a homeschooling co-op for socialization. Send your child to camp or enroll her in Girl Scouts. Do not send her to school and let her take up space and textbooks if you don't care about formalized, public education.
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ITA. The reason it gets me ruffled is that it seems rather a large insult to all the people who have decided to take it entirely on themselves to make sure their kids can multiply and write a decent paper. Taking the kids on an educational outing is a lark. The hard part is assuming FULL responsibility for making sure the kid understands fractions and how to construct a written argument. Letting a paid teacher do that during the school day and then saying that you homeschool is an insult to the hardworking folk who actually do. It's time consuming and will at times be frustrating when the kid doesn't understand some key concept.
My parents, and many other parents in my community when I was a kid, took a stab at homeschooling when it was thrust on them by circumstance. It was mid-70's. The teachers union went on strike. (Is this even legal anymore?) Some parents took a "wait and see" attitude. My own and some others panicked when days turned to weeks and bought math and english workbooks. They thought it was easily do-able because they had always done what momfhk calls homeschooling (we went to more musuems and historical preserves than any kid alive, I thought). But the outings and the "here, read this article on wombats" approach are pure field trip fun. That's rather different from trying to explain long division to a kid who doesn't get it (me). The true homeschooler must soldier on and make sure their kid ultimately does understand long division, even though a nature walk would be less stressful for everyone. Luckily for my and other parents, the strike ended and I learned long division from people who had a solid method for teaching it. People who undertake true homeschooling know going in that it is all on them to make sure their kid knows long division, can spell and all the other un-fun things. They have a full plan (and sometimes purchased curriculm and teacher guides) because if they don't teach it, their kid won't know it. It's a huge responsibility, enormous work. And to CLAIM to be doing this work while letting paid teachers shoulder the actual responsibility of making sure the kid knows long division- blech! it's so insulting.
Can't you follow your own argument? The question of whether or not children get sick more often if they are in group care is not in question nor has it ever been.
Are you denying that your point in providing information showing that children in group care get sick more often was not to provide an example of a negative to group care?
"And, surely *you* can acknowledge that it may not necessarily be construed as a *positive* of childcare either"
Why wouldn't lowering your child's risk of some serious illnesses not be considered a *positive*?
May I ask how old dd or ds that you are homeschooling and are you planning on more?
Very well! BTW, I'd be more than happy to share our homeschooling activities with you, if you are interested. Let me know :)
~~That would be Great!!
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