how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 2:56pm

"We have a specific culture now and in this culture the use of day care and other providers is absolutely NATURAL. This model has existed for quite a long time."

Here is one final excerpt for you.

http://www.naturalchild.com/peter_cook/ecc_ch1.html

"It is sad and perverse that many who have worked to right the wrongs done to women, have also sought to relieve women’s burdens by devaluing their role as mothers and relieving them semi-permanently of their infants and young children. Child care advocates sometimes argue that the infants are being properly returned to group care with multiple carers, as in a tribe. But they ignore the fact that, uniquely in the history of our species, it is a group in a enclosed institution which does not include mother, relatives or anyone with a continuing bond or any enduring emotional commitment to that child. The consequent reduction in the possibilities for personal contact, mother-infant attunement, continuing secure attachments and tender loving care are, in practice, mostly ignored."

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:05pm

"What is the source of this information? Oh, let me guess, the Natural Child????? Its time to find a more reliable source."

Care to explain how this is a unreliable source?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2005
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:18pm
Its a little biased in my opinion.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:22pm

"Have you ever thought of joining an Amish community?"

Absolutely not, as we are *not* Christians or religious in any way, shape, or form, nor do we want anything to do with any type of organized religious institution.

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Registered: 04-21-2005
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:30pm
Where are all these other sources you were going to provide to support your beliefs? All I have seen is you posting sites from the Natural Child. I have been on the Natural Child website and it hasn't convinced me at all. It is just a couple of people spouting their beliefs, but no real data to back it up. Just because some are doctors of some sort doesn't mean their beliefs about parenting are any more valid than anyone elses.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:38pm

"According to my and everybody else's definition of homeschooling, I'm NOT homeschooling. I can only claim to be homeschooling if I use your incorrect definition."

Care to prove that my definition is incorrect :)

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:42pm

"If that's how you feel about your public school system, then I can see why you would homeschool."

Just to clarify, I didn't say "my" public school system, I said "our" public school system, as in "our" public educational system as a whole.

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Registered: 04-21-2005
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:45pm

This definition does:

"Homeschooling (also called home education) is the education of children at home and in the community, in contrast to education in an institution such as a public or parochial school. In the United States, homeschooling is the focus of a substantial minority movement among parents who wish to provide their children with a custom or more complete education which they feel is unattainable in most public or even private schools.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeschooling"

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:56pm

"This definition does:

"Homeschooling (also called home education) is the education of children at home and in the community, in contrast to education in an institution such as a public or parochial school. In the United States, homeschooling is the focus of a substantial minority movement among parents who wish to provide their children with a custom or more complete education which they feel is unattainable in most public or even private schools."

How so?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2005
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 4:05pm
"in contrast to education in an institution such as a public or parochial school." Not "in addition to"!

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