how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:42pm

Yes- they could. However, nature intended for the offspring of the species to nurse from their own mothers. Just because we "can" do something doesn't necessarily mean that it's the best thing to do. It also doesn't mean that 'any lactating woman' would be found who was able or willing to share her milk with a child that wasn't her own. Women working away from their infant offspring is really a relatively recent historical change- perhaps not recent in the terms of what we think of as "recent" as in last decade etc. but recent in terms of how long humanity has been in existance.

Wytchy

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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:46pm

Well, one *should* narrow down two things in order to make that statement work. The first being what span of history one is referring to- the second would be to note that one is speaking of the offspring of surviving mothers. What don't you agree with as far as that figure is concerned? The time period in question, or the high maternal mortality rate historically? Or something else?

Wytchy

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 10:59pm
Hell, *they* don't even think it is factual. If they did, they show statistics or hard data or something to back it up. Instead they *assumed* it was 99%. If they had proof, they wouldn't need to assume, now would they?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:22pm

But too often, in my experience, rote memorization is valued over understanding concepts. . .not the other way around.


By understanding the concept behind the multiplication tables one can figure out what 7 x 8 is without memorizing the entire table or in case you can't remember a particular fact.

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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 11:56pm

Oooh, oooh! Can I share my homeschooling from today?

Today we did a unit on animal husbandry. Feeding and giving water to the dog. Walking him to the end of the street and back. Ignoring him for the rest of the day. I'm predicting that soon we will be given the opportunity to study abnormal pet psychology when the poor dog begins to act out from neglect. (Note to self: better reserve those pet psychology books from the library now.)

The younger children had a three hour statics and dynamics unit using Legos to create ships and residential structures. Interspersed in this self-directed engineering unit was a handful of lessons in behavioral sciences when one child kept destroying the work of another. (I was able to quip a few quotes from my favorite new book, "The Sociopath Next Door," to point out the major characteristics of sociopaths, one of which would be the complete lack of remorse shown by the destructive child.) Deeply embedded within THAT lesson was a very short talking points about the merits of Spiderman band aids over band aids With No Characters when a flying Lego so serendipitously caused injury (part of our ongoing consumer ed project.) We also learned a little economics--about supply and demand--on the side, and how much stress the marketplace can handle before a system collapses.

During this time, the oldest child read three books of his own choosing. One about time warps, one about a magician who practices political skullduggery, and one about a fat cat who likes lasagna.

Later we discussed the Chaos Theory when the entire living room floor was covered with several hundred dollars worth of Legos. The children created a mock union collective bargaining session and I got to be the Powerful Multinational Corporation and they were the poor downtrodden workers who did not want to pick up the Legos for a pittance (well, actually for nothing.) Unfortunately, they learned that as strong as unions can be, sometimes The Man wins and they were not granted their request of free universal access to candy for picking up the Legos.

During lunch we studied the effects of too much ketchup on paper plates and how to tell if a paper plate is a solid or a liquid or a solid that converts to a liquid. We predicted the melting point of popsicles and we made a pie chart to predict what percentage of children would throw their popsicle stick out in the yard and what percentage would remember to throw hers in the garbage.

After lunch we went swimming. We had a short unit on physical education where we discussed sunscreen and keeping skin healthy. Each child got to choose one of the following activities: cannonball, belly flop, pencil jump, flying leap to floating innertube. We rotated so each child got a chance to perform each technique with emphasis on proper body position and exuberant joyful yelling.

Later in the afternoon one child created an art masterpiece using toilet paper, soap, water and tooth paste in the bathroom sink (with a concentration of textures and movement and observing techniques used by Kandinski and Pollack) while another wrote a persuasive essay e-mail inviting himself to Camp Grandma next week. The other two used their writing time to practice sharpening pencils until the sound of the pencil sharpener so irritated their mother that she began to shriek uncontrollably about being reminded of that scene in Fargo where the woodchipper is being used in a somewhat malevolent manner.

While one child participated in evening Football camp, the other three had a choice between analyzing Thackery's literary criticism of David Copperfield, creating a diarama of the Krebs cycle in Latin, and watching CyberChase. Since the day was a little weak in the math area, they chose CyberChase. (They get cranky on the days with no rigorous math.)

All in all, it was a pretty full homeschooling day. Tomorrow we are going to investigate more popsicle melting points, possibly go to the park and work on our mini physics unit (concentrating on acceleration and gravity), and study the influences of Cubism (if any) on Good Night Moon. Should be fun.

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 7:51am

Oooohhhhh gaaawwwwwwdd can't breath. Passing out. Laughing too hard. Must...find...teacher...of...the...year...mug...for...yooooooo

Seriously. This post slays me. It wraps up the goofiness in a tidy, perfect package. More elegant than my annoyed rants. Thanks and a tip of the hat (or helmet).

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:09am

So, how do you think our species began and continued to survive? Or do you think there was such an overflowing and ample supply of lactating women around who were able/willing to feed the babes of all the other women who either died or "went off to work"? ;) Again- what exactly is your disagreement with the figure? The lack of defined time period, the caveat of the 'surviving mother', or something else? Or do you merely believe that a significant number of women simply used wetnurses- and if so- what period of history are you referring to exactly?

Wytchy

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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:12am
I have a problem with reports that want readers to take assumption as importantly as fact.

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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:16am
Why do so many parents pick up and drop off at your school? At our schools this year because our override didn't pass, students will have to have a bus pass to get on. These bus passes are very expensive. I know a lot of parents are not buying them on principle and for financial reasons, but I think the parents that pick up and drop off are going to cause an absolute madhouse. I personally wouldn't want my kids to have to deal with that, even if they are both in middle school. Of course, once I see how long they are on the bus I may change my mind.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:21am

Great way to start a morning.


I can't really decided what is my favorite--the Pollack reference or the Fargo reference.


I don't know if I could read The Sociopath Next Door. Is it gruesome? I think I might start being paranoid.

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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