how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:26am

My personal take? We have a lot of SAHMs (I live in the highest income

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:30am
There's also an element of time management. When your kid takes the bus, they have to get to the bus stop by a certain time, usually fairly early. But when parents drive, it gives them more time, maybe a little more control. They get to stay in bed a half hour longer.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:35am

After school activities wouldn't affect the lines at dismissal time, as they finish their activities after dismissal.

Of the parents I know that drop off and pick up on a regular basis (and there aren't many), I would agree that either these parents don't want their kids on the bus as long as they are or they don't like what happens on the bus. Bus behavior is not always the best.

IMO and in our town, the kids who are on the bus so early are the ones that live furthest from the school. That is a choice the parents made.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:37am
Developing time management is a good thing, IMO; however, these high school kids get up so early, that I can understand wanting to let them sleep 1/2 hour later.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 8:42am

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Afterschool activities do affect pickup/dropoff. You can't let your kid ride teh bus (which deposits your kid at home at 4:20)

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:25am

I missed the report I guess. I was thinking she just made a statement that you jumped all over and keep refusing to state your specific disagreements with. (I only saw the statement- might have missed a post...?)

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:30am

***...why should their kid spend 30 minutes on a bus and get home later when they can be with mom sooner.***

If it were me, I'd be taking my kid to school because of safety concerns. When I was in school, there were quite a few fights on busses, as well as alot of other undesireable goings on (drugs, sex, etc. and yes- *on the bus*) (no real supervision- the driver is busy driving after all) and they still don't have seat belts. So maybe that's not the case here or where you are, but given my experience, I'm not comfortable with the bus issue. Of course, we're going to be homeschooling so it's a non-issue, but just wanted to stress that not all parents take their kids to school "to be with mom sooner".

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:34am

I think she was thinking afterschool activities sponsored by the school. When I think 'afterschool activities' in reference to school, I think things like football practice, band, drama club- whatever- that kids stay after school for. We used to have an 'activity bus' that would make the rounds after those activities were finished for those kids to take them home.

Wytchy

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:58am
I could not care less whether my high school student gets up early or late; she's responsible for getting herself to school on time and for getting herself to bed early enough to get enough sleep. I was thinking of myself and a kid too young to manage on her own!
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:11am

...IMO high school students -should- be responsible for those things, *but* they are still of an age where parental guidance and boundaries are important. I *would* care and have a say in whether my high school student got up and got to bed at reasonable times- just as I would care whether they got their homework done and what sort of grades they were making even if it's their responsibility. IMO when you say you 'could not care less' it makes it sound as if they're just a room mate as opposed to ones child. Or don't you feel that teens should have boundaries- that everything is their responsibility and they can just deal with the consequences? *curious*

Wytchy

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