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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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...And I wonder what the mortality rate of those infants would have been........ Any sources on that?
Wytchy
OK, I googled Infant and childbirth mortality in the 18th century and got some links.
Here is one:
http://www.bloodshed.org/lagowiki/index.php/Infant_Mortality_in_the_1800s
And another:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=1939293&dopt=Abstract
(this one actually talks about breastfeeding from what I skimmed. I did not really read it)
And here is an article about wet nurses:
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2005/is_1_33/ai_56027319
I think 99% percent is way too optimistic considering maternal death and the fact upper classes did not breastfeed so they could have children closer together. Certainly, royals were not allowed to breastfeed so they could have more heirs.
&nbs
The point being- our species was designed to be nourished by the biological mother. That we've found ways around that is human invention. Progress? Sure. A good thing? In many cases. But it's shown that a biological mothers's milk is the ideal nutrition for their own offspring. It's customized to their individual needs. It's also shown that there are risks involved with feeding milk from other mammals. (Differences in nutrition content can cause problems and health risks.)
I wonder how long it took before early humankind discovered that other women could nurse the babies of women who had died? I wonder how much longer than that it took them to discover that the milk of other mammals could be used... Or are you suggesting that humanity has always known and practiced this?
Wytchy
Do you have anything that doesn't reference *recent* history? I'd consider the 1800's to be pretty recent.
Wytchy
IMO it's one thing to let them do what they need to do in order to take on that responsibility- it's another to state that one doesn't care whether they live up to it or not.
Wytchy
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