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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Right- but human invention isn't always the best or most beneficial. In this instance, breastfeeding by a biological mother is *most* beneficial. Will other means of infant feeding kill the kid? Probably not- but it wasn't always that sure a thing. I'm certainly not suggesting that human invention is a "bad" thing- far from it. I'm just offering a reminder of our history as a species. IMO I don't think we crawled out of the muck with the knowledge that "oh hey- we can just nurse each others offspring or feed them milk from the cows (or mammoths ;) that we haven't domesticated yet"... ;)
Wytchy
Yes- still pretty recent history. (For the record- I was looking at the dates referenced in the articles).
Wytchy
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*MY* school is not *entirely dependent* upon standardization, in testing or other methods. They do standardized testing, but it isn't the only thing they use when determining curriculum."
You make a good point. Perhaps "entirely dependent" is too strong a phrase, "very dependent" would proabaly be more accurate.
"I think rote learning and memorization is important in some areas. Multiplication tables, for instance. Yes, it's important to understand *why* 6x6 is 36, but being able to pull that number off the top of your head is important too. (JMO)"
I agree. Indeed rote learning and memorization is important in some areas.
"Historically? Yes. Modern civilization has obviously found ways around that, but our species is biologically intended to be fed at the breast. (Mammals, remember? ;) Wetnurses became an option as an advent of necessity (mother died) and later as convenience/status for the wealthy, but the biological norm is that mammalian offspring be fed at their mothers breast. Historically, if they weren't, they'd starve. Thankfully we've found ways to circumvent that, but one cannot ignore our biological roots as a mammalian species. ;)"
Very well said!
"Yes- they could. However, nature intended for the offspring of the species to nurse from their own mothers. Just because we "can" do something doesn't necessarily mean that it's the best thing to do. It also doesn't mean that 'any lactating woman' would be found who was able or willing to share her milk with a child that wasn't her own."
Yes! Finally, someone who gets it :)
"Women working away from their infant offspring is really a relatively recent historical change- perhaps not recent in the terms of what we think of as "recent" as in last decade etc. but recent in terms of how long humanity has been in existance."
You're absolutely right. WOHM's *is* "a relatively recent historical change".
<,but just wanted to stress that not all parents take their kids to school "to be with mom sooner". >>
Good. Cause I didn't state that. I stated my observations at *my* school ...
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The JACKAL
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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