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how do i convince my husband
| Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm |
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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"But too often, in my experience, rote memorization is valued over understanding concepts. . .not the other way around.
By understanding the concept behind the multiplication tables one can figure out what 7 x 8 is without memorizing the entire table or in case you can't remember a particular fact. For example, for some reason I always had trouble with 7 x 8. . .but since I knew the concept behind multiplication, I could figure out that 7 x 8 was the same as 7 x 7 (which I could remember) PLUS 7-- and adding 49 and 7 wasn't difficult.
Teachers who teach concepts rarely ignore the value of memorization. . .memorization means I don't HAVE to use the principles behind the concepts every time I see a problem of that nature.
Teachers who teach ONLY memorization MAY not always see the value of concept learning or divergent problem solving."
Great post!
BTW, I think both of you are right. Indeed "rote learning and memorization is important in some areas." However, "Teachers who teach ONLY memorization MAY not always see the value of concept learning or divergent problem solving." THis is precisely what I was trying to say/point out, but you both said it much better than I did. THanks :)
"So, how do you think our species began and continued to survive? Or do you think there was such an overflowing and ample supply of lactating women around who were able/willing to feed the babes of all the other women who either died or "went off to work"? ;) Again- what exactly is your disagreement with the figure? The lack of defined time period, the caveat of the 'surviving mother', or something else? Or do you merely believe that a significant number of women simply used wetnurses- and if so- what period of history are you referring to exactly?"
Great questions!
"There's also an element of time management. When your kid takes the bus, they have to get to the bus stop by a certain time, usually fairly early. But when parents drive, it gives them more time, maybe a little more control. They get to stay in bed a half hour longer."
Good point. THis is definately one of the many reasons why I take my dd to school instead of sneding her on the bus :)
"If it were me, I'd be taking my kid to school because of safety concerns. When I was in school, there were quite a few fights on busses, as well as alot of other undesireable goings on (drugs, sex, etc. and yes- *on the bus*) (no real supervision- the driver is busy driving after all) and they still don't have seat belts."
I agree. These issues concern me as well.
"The point being- our species was designed to be nourished by the biological mother."
Absolutely!!! Indeed, "our species *was* designed to be nourished by the biological mother."
"But it's shown that a biological mothers's milk is the ideal nutrition for their own offspring. It's customized to their individual needs. It's also shown that there are risks involved with feeding milk from other mammals. (Differences in nutrition content can cause problems and health risks.)"
Yes, you are correct. Indeed, "a biological mothers's milk is the ideal nutrition for their own offspring."
Again, very well said!!!
"Do you have anything that doesn't reference *recent* history? I'd consider the 1800's to be pretty recent."
I agree. I'd consider the 1800's to be fairly *recent* as well.
"Very dependent still wouldn't be accurate for my school."
Again, I'm referring to our public educational system as a whole.
"The Sociopath Next Door" is a great book; you'd enjoy it! It isn't gruesome at all. Barely mentions serial killers.
It talks about the four percent of people in our society who have no conscience. It tells you how to recognize them and how to handle one if you encounter one in your life. It talks about how we can ignore our own conscience in the presence of authority figures or when we are sick. I found it fascinating!
It brings up a huge question though, of how to handle such persons in our judicial system if they commit crime. Are they mentally ill or morally challenged or just being true to their own nature? If we had a choice to be with or without conscience, would we choose to never feel regret, remorse, shame or guilt?
I was just thinking about the various evil MILs from this board. It would be interesting to see if any of them fit the sociopath mold.
I don't think one can refer to our educational system as a whole. The differences froms district to district are so great that a generalization doesn't apply.
Which then leads to the opinion that one shouldn't base the decisions of the education for a particular child/family on "the educational system as a whole" but upon their particular
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
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