how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:01am

Having seen plenty of nursing in nature in action lately (thanks to two litters of kittens, one of which are the offspring of one of my cats), I'd say rather that nature intended for babies to receive nourishment from a biologically appropriate source (i.e. from the same species) and not necessarily exclusively from the biological mother. Those two litters were born around the same time and all of the kittens quickly adopted *both* mothers as sources for nourishment and comfort all on their own. I've seen that happen twice now with litters born to different mothers around the same time. Breastmilk can be tailor-made to an infant via 1) exposure of the mother to diseases that an infant is also exposed to (and thus the mother generating antibodies to those diseases) and 2) through nursing when when the mother also can come into contact with the diseases the infant has been exposed to. If several mothers are living in a similar (or the same enviornment), they will be exposed to similar or the same diseases. Whichever mother the babies are nursing on, as long as there is some nursing on the biological mother, that mother will still produce antibodies to diseases via method 2....it doesn't take exclusive 24/7 nursing to achieve that.

In fact, I could actually see the argument that it is biologically better for several mothers to nurse several (unrelated) infants as 1) it would help to build up milk even more effectively (saw that very dramatically with one litter: the mother was struggling to produce enough and having lots of kittens nurse on her but not starve because they could go to the other mother meant that her body could slowly build up a good supply without threating the kittens' health) and 2) it would expose the mother to even more diseases helping to build up an even better supply of antibodies for all babies nursing. Personally, I like the idea of one big nursing circle :-).

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:25am

That's my opinion?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:32am

Oh, I don't know if it's my opinion, but more of a look at the history and evolution of technology in the past 200 years that have made everyone's life different......call it common sense.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:36am
That's often common in the wild, too; feral mother cats will group together so they can defend their litters against marauding toms trying to kill the kittens.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:37am
Until recent history, there wasn't such thing as a SAHM.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:38am

No, once again I wouldn't call it my opinion but more of a study of history and a bit of common sense thrown in.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:45am

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I answered this.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:53am

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Yikes, calm down there a bit.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 10:57am

So

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 11:13am

Is that natural?


PumpkinAngel

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