how do i convince my husband

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how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:31pm

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"I would again, say yes. We are a cultural society and have always been living in groups and not just family groups, where raising children was a group effort and not just an effort to be left up to mom and dad."

http://www.naturalchild.com/peter_cook/ecc_ch1.html

"It is sad and perverse that many who have worked to right the wrongs done to women, have also sought to relieve women’s burdens by devaluing their role as mothers and relieving them semi-permanently of their infants and young children. Child care advocates sometimes argue that the infants are being properly returned to group care with multiple carers, as in a tribe. But they ignore the fact that, uniquely in the history of our species, it is a group in a enclosed institution which does not include mother, relatives or anyone with a continuing bond or any enduring emotional commitment to that child. The consequent reduction in the possibilities for personal contact, mother-infant attunement, continuing secure attachments and tender loving care are, in practice, mostly ignored."

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:43pm

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Nice deflection.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:44pm

I know....I read it and you did it much better than myself.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:48pm

Back up what...the effects of the the industrial revolution on today's society?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:51pm

Good point.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:53pm
See post 939

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:54pm

See post 939.


Or you can do what I suggested...Read a bit of history, visit some of the working history museums and talk to people....you will see that your life and all of our lives today are extremely easy because of modern technology."


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:57pm
There is no scientific proof. You know? Because it is obvious to anyone. No scientist would waste valuable research time studying something that is so painfully obvious. No agency would provide research/grant funding for such a study.

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Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 1:57pm

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 08-04-2005 - 2:04pm

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Not when you put it in the proper perspective versus pulling it out of context...no.

PumpkinAngel

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