how do you deal?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2008
how do you deal?
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Tue, 11-11-2008 - 1:40pm

I was solely at home with our DD for 3 years.

 

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 4:03pm

This has nothing to do with your relationship with your daughter and everything to do with her developmental phase. All three year olds have trouble with transitions, and that's exactly what this is. She is having trouble transitioning from one activity (childcare) to another (back home.) The babysitter may be trying to help when she tells your daughter she'll be back in a few days, but it's undermining the situation because 1) you feel judged and 2) she's not dealing with your daughter in a developmentally appropriate way.


Call the sitter and tell her something like, "As you can see, my daughter has entered the stage where she needs to be transitioned better from one activity to the next. I'm enlisting your help with this. "


Then suggest that she tell her 10

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2008
Wed, 11-12-2008 - 10:13pm

It's funny you should mention that bc here lately I am seeing diificulty with moving from one thing to the next.

 

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 11-13-2008 - 9:34am

Am I being picky?


*I* don't think so.

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Ducky

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 11-13-2008 - 3:56pm

count your blessings.

 

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 1:07am

You both bring up good points, I do count my blessings and am grateful to find a person who cares about my kid.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-27-1998
Sat, 11-15-2008 - 7:56pm

You're not being picky. Your DD is

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Mon, 11-17-2008 - 10:50pm

It is called jealous - and it is ok :)


I worked in preschools before having children of my own and there was one boy who just loved me - I was the only teacher he liked. His mother would say "who do you love?" and he would say my name - and we all laughed. He was three - she is doing what is normal and good for her at this age. She is testing her "tummy" and she has fun at her house. This is a good thing!


I have older boys - soon to be 19, 16 and soon to be 14 - let me tell you what

Courtney

There's a great big beautiful tomorrow shining at the end of every day... there's a great big beautiful tom

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Tue, 11-18-2008 - 9:45pm

Thanks for responses ladies.

And one of those 'weird' feelings *is* jealousy once I fine tuned my 'what do I feel meter.' It is a little strange, as I can't say I ever experienced that before, but I am being honest, and you are right it does pass. I'm just happy I did find someone who I like, and who dd likes because we never had many options until we moved here.

I should lighten up, because her nutrition is made up for while at home. And I did say something to the lady. I just said there is A, B and C in her bag, I'd be happy if she ate that for breakfast and snack. That was that. I should be pleased too though, because she actually plays with her and does different activities and doesn't plop her in front of the TV, which I appreciate. I see the trashed house when I pick her up, lol.