"Raising" to me means setting disciplinary standards, moral standards, ethical standards and religious standards. It also includes being financially and legally responsible for the child(ren). It also includes the responsiblity and authority for educational and medical decisions for the child(ren).
Daycare provides none of the above.
raising children involves being responsible for their health, social, emotional, educational and religious upbringing -- including the basics of food and shelter -- from the time they are born (okay, maybe even from conception, LOL!) until the time that they are ready and move out on their own.
heck, i can't even get my nanny to come in the middle of the night when my middle dd wakes up!
Accountability in the long-term results. That's what defines "raising" children.
When the DC is accountability for the long-term results, after 18 years, of bringing a child into this world and everything that child has learned by the time he is 18, then DC will have raised the child. When the 16 year old child breaks into a car and the police go after the DCP? When the child throws a temper tantrum at the grocery store and people mutter, "What terrible DCP!" behind their hands.
While parents may choose to delegate some of the day to day care-giving to others, that does not absolve them of the accountability for the quality of care, for the end results of that care and for being diligent in avoiding abusive other-care-givers. Hence DCP is not raising the child. Those having ultimate legal and moral accountability are the ones raising the child.
Everything else is just the voice of new Mommies who haven't traveled very far down the road at all.
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Raising children involves actually being there to raise them, that's for sure.
"Raising children involves actually being there to raise them, that's for sure.
how old is your child? Is he/she even born yet? because honestly you're so far off from reality that my eyes can't roll up in my head far enough.
who knew instead of the straight A student altar girl/soccer player/dancer/singer I 'thought" my daughter was I was actually raising a juvenile delinquent who didn't trust anyone. Huh. go figure.
but then again I'm secure enough in my parenting to be glad my daughter trusts people other than me and smart enough to know that waiting your turn now and again is a good thing -- even at a young age.
as the prophet Charlie Brown once said "Good Grief"
Yes. We. Did.
I think that I'll just hijack your definition of raising children.
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett