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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Laura
"She has an old set to play in the snow that were mine but she never did much of it cause it was cold and she doesn't like it. We have everything shoveled for when she goes to school so she can wear regular shoes."
Maybe she doesn't enjoy playing in the snow because she isn't properly dressed for it? Our kids love being out in the snow and don't mind the cold at all, but then they have proper winter boots, snow overalls (goretex), sweaters, scarfs and waterproof (goretex) gloves (in addition to the usual clothing and underclothing). They don't seem to mind the cold, which is a good thing considering that children are expected to be outside for at least an hour or two every day at school/dc regardless of weather conditions (they go out in rain, snow, sleet, wind etc.).
Laura
I'm supposed to be ashamed that my working provided that for him?
$175K is in the low range for an SVP of Sales. While my DH "just" gets bonuses based on meeting his number, an SVP gets bonuses based on how the company and his department perform.
outside_the_box_mom
Yes you are right here.
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See this is where I don't agree with you. I have been a SAHM for 4 1/2 years. I will be home for another 3 1/2 years when my youngest goes to kindergarten. We live a lifestyle of one income. We decided that when I quit working that when I returned to work that we would continue that lifestyle and bank my entire paycheck for at leat 2 to 3 years. This will MORE than make up for the retirement savings that we didn't contribute to while I was SAH. My husband has a 401K at his job, and he stills contributes the same amount that he did before I quit working. So his hasn't changed. We have investment accounts that my salary will go to when I return to work that are part of our retirement. When I return to work in 3 1/2 years I will be 37 years old. We sat down that thought all this out. You can say if your health holds out, if this if that...but I could say the same to you. If you health doesn't hold out and you have to quit tomorrow then what? We can't live our lives with a bunch of what if's. It just isn't worthy.
The years we are moms to young children are very short indeed, IMO, too short to derail a career for.
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