How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 2:17pm
Virgo :

I still think the President needs to give those people a raise.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 2:26pm
Thank God my state has that law to prevent that and you are right. It is sad . I loved it when you and the other poster mentioned totally basically showed where SAHM's argument was flawed. You pinpointed it exactly and these judges know vindictiveness and the back and forth every day they see it and still they can cut through it to decide who needs to be custodial parent.

SAHM stated her husband had taken the mother back for custody of the children and lost. LOST then she blamed the generalization that it's mother's right. What she failed to see was that just maybe the judge saw it as vindictive. These are the mother's children and he wants to get custody and hand them over to the new wife. You know replace the mom and that just isn't going to happen bar something tragic or the mom does something utterly to put the kids in jeopardy. Which from the original poster she has not. AS far as morals about the boyfriend apparently Dad there was getting nookie from this lady and the mom from the boyfriend now her husband so I think that is like calling the kettle black.

Both you and the other poster that you normally bicker with cut through the chase with this post and the nonesense. Thanks it was about time.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 2:27pm
The president can't, congress controls the purse strings.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 2:39pm
Texigan;

Yes but he can present it to congress.:) Which is what I meant :) and I thought he had plans to do that.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 3:55pm
ROFLOL!
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 3:56pm
there wasn't anything intelligent there to even start with.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 4:54pm
It all depends entirely where you live. If you live in Maine,Massachusetts, Montana, Michigan, Wisconson, Colorado, Alaska, New York, anywhere in Canada etc. then snow boots are esssential. This is one of those questions where geography is everything. Just as people from Tucson and Seattle will never agree on umbrella necessity, people from the north and south can't possibly agree on snow boot use.

Where I live, going without snow boots this time of year is like wearing no sun block during an Arizona summer.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 5:03pm
Perhaps you should keep in mind that not everyone lives where there is only a few days of snow per year and everything stops or shuts down at the first sign of snow. Where I live, if the kids did not go out in inclement weather, they wouldn't get a scrap of fresh air for 6+ months. There is a saying where we live: there is no such thing as bad weather only bad clothing. And so far, I have yet to meet a single child who has issues with or can't stand being out in cold weather. Quite the opposite: kids are more likely to want to stay indoors and out of the sun when the temperatures go above 85 F. If you are really dealing with just a few days each year and small amounts of snow, you probably don't particularly need good winter boots. But I can assure you that it is perfectly possible to find a boot and sock combination that will keep the feet dry, warm and comfortable without stinking. How do I know? Because every single child at ds's school and dd's dc has winter boots and they are expected to change out of those boots to indoor shoes (usually sandals) the second they get inside. With a hallway lined with (in the case of ds's school) 100+ pairs of winter boots, I have never smelled so much as a whiff of "stinky feet".

Laura

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 5:09pm
We are southern. And we don't view boots as essential. We do have steel toed boots for hiking and that and the moonboots that I have and now are hers. Since she fits in them. We do view hats, coats, scarves, and mittens essential. However we would have to get tons of snow for her to want to romp around in it. She just isn't a snow girl. Not everybody likes the colder states.


That being said even myself if I lived in NYC. I wouldn't wear boots, There are too many other types of shoes and I am sure that downtown is cleared off and kept nice.

Speaking of Arizona we were there and it sleeted then we kept driving and it was hot it was the oddest thing.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 5:17pm
Laura:

I live in the south. And my daughter doesn't like to play in the cold outdoors. She likes warm weather. We all do. 85 and above is perfect swimming and beach weather and we love it. Plus there is air conditioning for the summer months central air. The right weather though is 75-80 that is perfect.

However; I was just at my daughters school on Friday for the school party we had half an inch if that on the ground and it was snowing. And all the kids had gym shoes or maryjanes on not one single boot to be found there. Maybe in the rural areas they will have more boots but we live in the city. They have the coats, and hats and gloves an that is about it.

It depends upon the child and what their preference is. Like I said she has steel toed boots that can be worn if we would get an avalanch however; going out wouldn't be to wise.

Our schools begin really early and the children are taken in the gym and their recess is held in the gym and lunch rooms. So outdoors is only when there isn't snow or rain.


By the way I have been to Michigan in the summer and it was freezing due to the lakes and we didn't have but summer gear and had to buy clothes. Not a fan of colder states or northern states. Canada was cold to come to think of it. We do have snow and we bundle up and we do stay warm.

Even our football games at the stadium are freezing and we can't sit too long watching it we rather be inside snug as a bug in a rug. Warm.

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