How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 5:49pm
It is an annual event. It is part of the military budget. It is hashed out, voted on by congress and then he signs it. It becomes effective January 1st. In the 23 years since I joined the Air Force the annual raise have been anywhere from 2% to 6%. This administration has given some of the bigger ones.

"Congress has passed the Fiscal Year 2004 Military Authorization Act (H.R. 1588) and the President has signed it into law. Among other things, the act includes the base pay raise for Fiscal Year 2004.

As with the past five years, the Congress have elected to "target" the pay raise. That means that mid-level officers and mid-level NCOs will receive a larger percentage raise than other paygrades. The average payraise is 4.1 percent with some members receiving as little as 3.7 percent, and others receiving as much as 6.25 percent."

http://usmilitary.about.com/library/milinfo/pay/bl2004percentenlbasepay.htm



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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 6:02pm
Texigan:

You are in the airforce. If you go down to Fort Bragg the Air Force has a place right by there it is really nice dorm like setting then you look at Fort Brag barracks and totally not as nice. And the pay for the Army is way less. And they do a lot more in their basics then the Air Force as far as how they train them. The Air Force treats their people well. I don't understand why the Army can not as well. These people work really hard. I reviewed the Navy because my uncle is retired Pentago Navy Flyer, and my brothers were in Army and Navy. And definitely the Navy was nicer. Why isn't the Army uptodate like the Air Force, Marines and the Navy? An niece is in Army and her Dad is in Iraq. The problem is it's not as nice as the Navy and Airforce and the basic is hard and they don't nearly get enough money for all they go through.

After I took my afsbab I scored well they wanted me to go to Texas an Cal for languages and coding. However; when they showed me the pay scale I flipped. Why was it the Navy and Air Force could offer me more yet the Army could not and it wasn't that much money for what they had you doing.After seeing so much of my family work really hard I think they need even more money.

All service people need more money. They are first enduring basic. Secondly working at a job that is training them to defend our country. Secondly like my bil shipped to god awful Iraq where he says lice, and fleas, and snakes are attrocious. The list continues. And I think more to do with their families while the soldiers are away should be taking place.

My bil is still over there and they are sending more.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 6:31pm
All military get the same pay, it does not matter what branch you are in. Enlistment/re-enlistment bonues my be different but base pay, BAH, BAS, seperation allownance, Per diem etc are the same across the board. So an E-4 in the Air Force would get the same as an E-4 in the Army as would an E-6, 0-2, 0-6 etc.

It is all decided by congress as are the rest of the military budget.

But I do agree that some of the living facilities are better in the Air Force. I think that has to do with how the Air Force decided to spend the money that they do get in their budget. They have seemed to figure out that the way to keep troops happy at their job is to also try keep them happy outside their job. My first assignment was Kadena AB, Okinawa. All branches were there and there was a very big difference in housing. The marines were in bays, just like in basic, rolls of beds with all your possessions in a foot locker. We, in the Air Force had private rooms.

BTW, I am not in the Air Force I got out 21 years ago yesterday. My DH made it a career and retired 5 years ago.


Edited 12/21/2003 6:34:36 PM ET by texigan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 7:03pm
"I would be finding a school that put the kids inside not outside during incliment weather." Two feet of snow is not at all inclement weather here. I specifically chose a preschool with a winter outdoor play yard, BTW, so that my DS COULD go out and play in the snow with other kids. He likes it. So does almost any kid who is used to it. (They do not take the kids outside if the windchill drops the temperature below 10-15 F.)

"hy would you live there if it's like that." We like it here like that, LOL! DS has been skiing and skating since he was 3, kind of need to have it cold for that. It is rare here for schools to close because of snow, only excessive cold (below about 5 F). So we don't veg, we go out and enjoy a snowstorm. (I don't suggest you move here, LOL!)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 7:40pm
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There aren't any risks there. I am not sure where you get that from.



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See I find this ironic. You SLAM any mother that comes on here and says it is (I will use your words) derailing to your children if there is too much time spent in DC, YET you seem more worried about your career. Hmmmm...

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Sun, 12-21-2003 - 8:13pm

Even here in the boring old Midwest our kids go out and play in the snow and cold.

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Registered: 08-16-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 8:22pm
"So does almost any kid who is used to it." My daughter always hated the snow, just like her mother. My daughter grew up in Central New York BTW...where it begins to snow in October and doesn't end unti April. In fact I HAVE seen it snow in June there. Like her mother my daughter is a warm weather sports lover, golfing year round, bicycling year round, swimming year round. That is one reason I moved back to California where I was born and raised.
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Registered: 10-11-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 9:32pm
A cartoon on the Nickelodeon channel.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:11pm
Where's the Snow Boots Debate Board when you need it?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:21pm
LOL, you JUST beat me to posting this same question!

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