How do you do it?

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How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:30pm
By all means, don't buy boots, LOL, you and your DD clearly don't need 'em. But please, do yourself a favor and never visit NYC in the wintertime or you're in for the surprise of your life.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:40pm
Cocoapop:

You have no worries. I only visit Yankee territory lol And only during summer months when it's suppose to be a great deal warmer.

As for the preschool, our schools keep the children in doors and have the facilities to accomodate that. When it's warmer out they do go out but not in rain, sleet, or hail or snow. They play kickball, indoor soccer and things of that nature indoors and it's great.

I look for the academics not the sports of the school. She is attending a small, personalizedschool that specializes in college preparatory. 88% of the students are accepted and receive $700,000 dollars in scholarsships.

So I don't think she is lacking anything us southerners don't lack in sports and things actually are team is in the playoffs we won another football game today.

And the children for the most part don't wear boots or take off their shoes if they want to go home with shoes. We have clever children that would find some use for those shoes such as creating something with them, hiding them even stealing them so I don't know.

Preschool same thing keeps them in. In fact I did an internship helping when my daughter went and we did a great deal of things inside by Spring then they can go out when it's warmer.

We have wacky weather and last year we had very warm weather early on while everyone was being hit with snow and such we had 70-80 weather which we all loved.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:46pm
Pumpkin you might consider Missouri Midwest but I consider it Midwest NORTH. I have been to the ARCH there in summer months and it was quite windy and cold which I found Missouri interesting. You have a Mc.Donalds on a boat near the Arch.

Our school has uniforms and boots are not it. I am sure they could wear boots if they wanted and change shoes but the kids don't want to do all that.

When it's warm they do play outside however; in winter it's off to the gym. And that is okay. The big thing here is academics and music. Other schools in the area parochial do have sports and that is a big thing for them and they do have their children running outside but not recess and such just gearing up for sports. And they seem to be more focused on producing sports and are known for the sports.

My high school was known for baseball:) and that is okay.

Not everyone has to like winter. Or like snow. It's okay really and not everyone has to like boots. Some of us prefer gym shoes or maryjanes or other shoes like the ducks.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:48pm
Reis

Cali has some good weather but it's not hot enough. Vegas has decent weather in winter summer though those 115 are killers. Especially when you can't go in the pool and have to stay inside. But I rather have hot weather than cold .
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:53pm
Cocoapop:

No doubt I don't think I will in winter school is in. Maybe summer time. I am not a northern girl although I would like the shopping and seeing the sites. I dont' think NYC is the place for me. I love the south. I love Charleston at Christmas. I love Gatlinburg and Nasheville at Christmas. I love the south. I love Atlanta which is a hop and jump up from Hilton Head. I even love Kentucky and Virigina. Although Virigina has snow.

I am fine where I am at. I would like the shopping but I wouldn't be wearing boots if I came to NYC. And anything goes in NYC so you could wear anything. However; I probably prefer the islands or Miami :)
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Registered: 04-27-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:54pm
That's why I think if you can not afford to raise them the way you want - don't have them.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 11:55pm
I think some of you are the boot gestapo . My original point was that custody shouldn't be based on buying boots. We are in America this isn't a dictatorship hello we can wear shoes and other type of shoes.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 12:02am
Gestapo? No, that would be jack boots, not snow boots, ROTFLOL!


Edited 12/22/2003 12:11:45 AM ET by cocoapop
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:22am
And I have never understood why a KITCHEN sponge lives under the sea....he should be a sea sponge.....

LOL

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 1:55am
You are probably right that a custody decision shouldn't be based on boots. But I think the point several of us were trying to make is that there are areas of the world (I live in Sweden) where not buying your children proper winter boots could be seen as a sign of neglect.

Laura

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