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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Someone's gotta keep Sandy the Squirrel company. . .what the heck is SHE doing down there?
The original poster's post is nothing short of being vindictive and hurtful to the mom. She has married this guy less than a year mind you and now dad is playing house wants to take the kids an so now step mom and dad are looking for anything and everything whether it is credible or not to make a case. It was clear to several posters that this was going on and they cut to the chase.
Were the children in daycare when mom there was with dad. Stepmom there isn't answering that question because they were and she knows that will defeat the whole argument.
The thing is this mom there has 3 children and a husband and she is working contributing. She is using daycare which equates to preschool or school. Our children go to school and spend time away from us. She is objecting to the stepmother watching the children. And I don't blame her one bit this lady is gunning for her would you put your children with this lady after she backstabs you.
This stepmother and father are vindictive and hurtful bottom line. What if her kids are like mine and hate boots. There are other alternatives to boots and they do not have to wear them if they do not like them. It doesn't make you a good parent or not. To say that is negligent is ludicrous.
And for all this stepmother knows maybe mom there did have boots or planned to buy boots but hadn't gotten to the store being pregnant yet step mother is casting her as negligent. As far as the child hitting the mother on the field please. That child is first upset because mom and dad divorce. Dad remarries and has a wife and I would wager himself that is sending out vibes to the child about their true feelings.
You know what I find really amazing is that in this day in age when a woman is working maybe she is a file clerk and not making six figures but is working at a job to help her family , that she likes that ncp's delienate this. It's alright for Dad there to work till 9 or 10pm yet god forbid mom work to 6.
If I was this poster I would be questioning if this man simply didn't marry her to be a mother to his children that he had with the first wife. She mentioned he already lost the first court battle. What if Dad there was asked to cut his work schedule and not step mom watch the children ? How far do you think that would go.
This is nothing more than a dad and step mother trying to be controlling and the step mother has taken her new position and ran with it. I wonder what would happen if step mom's ex decide to seek custody of her son ? Would she still be trying to do this to this mom?
So at this point I am really disgusted with the original poster and the banter about freaking boots when parenting is more than boots. There are different parenting styles and not one way is right what you may view is right another person may not and this is America and we are suppose to have the freedom to decide that yet I am reading censorship at it's best.
These kids aren't neglected step mom even says that when she isn't backstabbing the mom.
Secondly, the test for the military is the ASFAB, not the afsbab. And that test would not qualify you to attend the DLI (the Defense Language Institute). You would have had to taken another test entirely to qualify for that training.
However; life took me in another direction and I do not regret and didn't regret it at the time. It was to see what and where I would be and exploration if you will.And that was the point. However; I still think even if the posted increase the pay scale is realtively low compared to what you can make outside the millitary. It just depends on the person and what they want to do and what type of money they want to make and how fast or slow. I just looked at what one has to go through and the ordeal an such and thought it realitively low in pay.
I was just amazed at the way the two bases were kept. I found one to be generic while the other to be nicely kept which is ashame. Which is what I already stated.
I also went to graduate school, but it doesn't help my grammatics, and my spelling these days. You can go to school all you want and know the rules of writing however; it doesn't mean you recall them all the time. I know I don't nor do I care.
I'm going on 38 years old. My mother was a lab technician and worked FT. I don't ONCE, EVER, remember thinking that she wasn't 'available' to me, that my sitter or the school was raising me. There was never any confusion about who were my parents. (BTW, my father alwso worked FT, and had a PT job and I've never heard any critiscm of HIM, nor do I ever remember feeling that he wasn't available to me.)
In fact, I admire my mother very much for doing everything she did, as well as she did. I only wish I had half of her organization skills. She was an excellent role model and someone to be admired.
My great grandmother had 9 children and lived on a farm. Her H was sick for a long time and so most of the burden of family and farm fell to her. She was a working parent too, back in the early part of 1900. How much time, realistically, do you think she 'sat' with her kids, when there were crops to get in, animals to take care of, wood to chop, water to carry, cleaning, baking, cooking, etc etc? Why does everyone think working moms are such a New Concept? What about the turn of the Industrial Age, when many factory workers were women? Their kids were our grandparents and great grandparents, and they turned out fine, for the most part. In fact, they probably had a better grasp of financial security, work ethics, family love and support, and working for what you want than most people today do.
It always shocks and saddens me that as far as women have come, and as many choices as we want available to us that we've worked for, that we'll still bust each other's chops over making different choices. Isn't this what we've wanted, the freedom to MAKE A CHOICE, the one that works for us?????
Secondly, the PAY SCALES of enlisted, officer and warrant officer are the SAME across all services; this is dictated by Congress and DoD. I don't care what any recruiter showed you. Any additional money would have been bonuses offered to help fill hard to fill MOS's. And you didn't need a college degree to get the bonus.
yes, having a degree meant you started at a higher grade, but you were still making the same money as anyone else in that grade, whether Army, Air Force, Navy or USMC, with that same time in service. if one or two services offered a high pay grade for a certain job, that only meant for that service it was hard to fill that job skill; it didn't mean that service valued its members more (or those not offering any or as much valued their members less).
You seem to have *some* familiarity with things military, but frankly there are so many falsehoods (intentional or not) in your claims that I don't find you very credible. And yes, I have good reason to understand EXACTLY what the military gives or does not give for those going to DLI; I went there.
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