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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Excuse me but I happen to know that is wrong. My ex was in the Air Force from 1976-97 and When he was serving here at Mather AFB (Nuke Tech) His crew chief was pregnant and that was 1987. She was not allowed in the "shop" area during her pregnancy and was on "desk duty" however she was there until she was almost 8 months pregnant. It was HER decision to leave the AF after she gave birth and decided to become a SAHM. Both her AND her husband were military.
Come on, get with the times ladies. Wake up and smell the Starbucks!
MB
Not really I know a number of people who sense the inuendos. The two most prominent ones were on the other day...one where Mr Crabs (yeah what a nama huh?) tells SpongeBob that Patrick says he looks like a girl and SpongeBob says "Am I a Pretty Girl". In another one where SpongeBob is an "artist" SpongeBob made a mosaic of him and Squidworth playing "leapfrog" and announces "Look Squidworth this one is us playing leapfrog and this time I made YOU on top". Yeah right. LOL Innocent...uh huh...
Thanks for reminding me that other opinions don't matter...it's that my kids are happy, healthy, and reasonably well-adjusted that matters!
Have a safe and peaceful holiday season.
MB
You must have forgotten many particulars, because I served active duty in the Army from 1979 through 1983, and then another 8 years in the Active Reserves and at NO time during those years would any service accept any applicant who was pregnant.
They had no idea I was pregnant. And at no time in my post did I say they would accept someone pregnant. They were not aware of my condition. They were trying to recruit me however I merely wanted to see what it was about and take the testing which gave me an indicator about certain things to see where I would fit in . The man clearly stated I would have basic in Texas at Fort Hood then from there go on to language school in California I didn't not hear him or misunderstand him. My mother didn't miunderstand him either. I even asked what I would do with language school and coding. And how it would relate to paying for Graduate school and how long I would have to spend and details like that all the while reminding him and the 2 other men that I was looking at all my options and curious due to my siblings and family. I didn't have the physical portion taken I was to do that upon signing paperwork which I didn't sign.
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Secondly, the PAY SCALES of enlisted, officer and warrant officer are the SAME across all services; this is dictated by Congress and DoD. I don't care what any recruiter showed you. Any additional money would have been bonuses offered to help fill hard to fill MOS's. And you didn't need a college degree to get the bonus.
I can only go by what they presented to me at the time and they showed me schedules of money and if you enlisted for a certain length you got paid certain amount. And a certain amount when toward paying back school loans or tuition. Which wasn't a huge amount. You could of gotten more from the program Clinton set up to work in areas that needed people to work in.
They said because I was debating about grad school or getting a 2nd degree that the present bachelor's would put me in a higher category I could go in as an officer. And I wasn't starting low.
yes, having a degree meant you started at a higher grade, but you were still making the same money as anyone else in that grade, whether Army, Air Force, Navy or USMC, with that same time in service. if one or two services offered a high pay grade for a certain job, that only meant for that service it was hard to fill that job skill; it didn't mean that service valued its members more (or those not offering any or as much valued their members less).
I really didn't care compared to the occupation that I could have outside the millitary the salary was higher. b
You seem to have *some* familiarity with things military, but frankly there are so many falsehoods (intentional or not) in your claims that I don't find you very credible. And yes, I have good reason to understand EXACTLY what the military gives or does not give for those going to DLI; I went there.
As far as what they give and don't considering I am near Wright Patt and I have lived with both brothers being in the millitary and my niece who calls and writes and my BIL who is with the Army Corps Engineers and hearing him constantly talk about I think I do.
You missed the point I think they should be paid more. The millitary isn't for everyone. I was looking into it. And some people go because they want to some to make money and some because they don't have anywhere else to go.
Also by the way I had health conditions and the recruiter knew that so there is no way I would of made it through the physical they knew that but kept telling me that there would be a phsyical once at basic and for those that can't do go to the fat farm and get several chances. We came home from that meeting telling my older brother and he is the guys just wanted to recruit and maybe they did. My whole point of taking the testing is to see what score and where and what they would place me in. So if you get upset about it oh well it was something I wanted to do and did.
I really don't care if you find me credible or not. I know what I lived through and what I participated in and didn't. So what. I do know what they told me and my mother an I have a little of pasted away in my college memory book.
By the way my cousin went into ROTC at the University of Michigan and quit and got a job in computers a really high paying job so much so it was huge and he owed the ROTC that money. But didn't pay it back and spent the second huge amount they gave him to do that computer firm stuff in Texas. And guess what spent that and incurred huge debts. Dumb I know but young and wanted to party. Guess what he joined the millitary finished top in his class this past year in Flight School he flys some sort of planes the ceremony was held in Florida. He is in the Navy and they forgave his debt so he is thrilled.
So I do have family in the millitary outside of him and uncles and such and it was their choice and it was right for them. However for me it wasn't the right choice. And whether I was pregnant or not didn't make a difference to get the testing to see where you were you would be. In the scheme of things.
Just because things didn't happen to you the way they happen to other people don't mean it didn't happen it just means you were not aware or participated in. Lots of times things happen and people will say it's suppose to or it didn't happen to me this or that away. I can't help that . I can only go by what did happen to me.
As Frost says two roads diverged in a yellow wood and I choose the one less traveled so be it.
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