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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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It's 60 degrees here and I don't have to wear boots, and even when there is snow we have a man that clears the sidewalks, and the drive ways we pay good money for this. And guess what businesses around where I live since it is a city not the country clean up so people can get into their establishment and they do use salt.
And yes our city does that they have salt trucks and plows that us tax payers pay into and they do it. Because buses must run. They do close roads because of black ice and they send folks out to take care of it and they do a good job. They start early. But we don't get a great deal of snow.
I have been in Gatlinburg Tenn and the streets are cleared. Our streets are cleared I don't know if you live in rural areas, but that is the way it is. However; when businesses close it's not because of snow on the ground it's more about driving conditions. They don't want people driving. Too many accidents cause people act like they haven't driven in snow an simply aren't used to it. We have closings on the radio, on our local news it could be half an inch and they start the closings.
So it does happen. And guess what no boots. I do however; have some ducks that are nicely done when inclement weather happens. And I enjoy them.
Surely you jest. Where do you think all the snow that is cleared off the roads and sidewalk goes? Do you think they vacuum it up? It's all along the curbs, side of the sidewalks, etc.
If you don't wear boots in NYC in the winter you'll likely end up with frostbite from stepping in the slush and snowpiles. Get real.
I agree with you on your posts. However; sadly the thing is I think the husband in this situation is fueling this along with trying to convince this poster that she and him need to go again for custody which is why she is behaving this way trying to justify backstabbing and trying to justify taking the children from mom there. Problem is what would this SAHM do if her ex took her son? If there goal is to break the mothers heart then they are working towards that. And they can guise it under it would be better for the child. But is taking the mother away the one in which the children are use to a stable routine.
I went into the boot controversy with many of these posters cause their ideology is that it's there way of thinking or no way. Perhaps they need to broaden their horizons a bit and live outside of the box.
Not everyone is going to conform to their ideas. For instance in a post about millitary the one lady is saying she was in and it never happened to her that way. Well sorry what happened to me happened and I recalled it. I can't speak for her but I as clear as day remember what happened. And for some of these folks because they are only at certain levels of comprehension they see issues as black and white and forget there is grey area and not everything is going to be black and white.
As with this case. I wish the children's mother could see what has been posted and respond.
I think it's very difficult whether you are putting your child in daycare, or leaving them with your mom to leave small children. You miss them when they aren't with you. I have tried to work around my child's life and maybe unconventional and not everyone can do it and in fact I am sure my ex and his mother would say just put our child in daycare or after school care however; I choose this because I didn't want to miss out and yes it means not all the luxuries. This was my choice. I think each person has to choose what is right for their situation and I don't look down on or think it's bad for women to work. Contratry to what some court systems think.
I think although we have moved forward with women working our judicial system is still back in the 50's with their ideology of raising children so with that in mind since we do have to consider that when we are raising children from separated families then that has to be looked at in the scheme of things.
So I can see your point. By the way I do work and still try to be there for my child.I think we need to work on changing the judicial systems perception of raising children though.
I don't care what the temp is where you live, where you live wasn't the subject of the posts. NYC in snow in the winter was.
Your refusal to accept that there are parts of the world where people have to dress warmer than you have to dress makes your posts (and their point) ignorant and idiotic. To suggest that because where you live snow boots aren't necessary means they are unnecessary for everyone else is an ignorant, idiotic conclusion.
As for your claims about cities remaining open, that's simply a strawman argument because no one said NYC shuts down in the snow; I simply said expecting the sidewalks to be uniformly clear of snow at all times is completely unrealistic (and, again, ignorant). So if you think you could survive winter in NYC without snowboots, enjoy your frostbite with the warm knowledge that once your feet are amputated you won't have to endure the stench of gangrene.
NO I am not. We went to the Arch and I still have the postcards from that trip. Then we sat outside near these like step things and it was windy. I don't know what was going on. And I am not confusing it the ARCH is in Missouri. The Mc.Donalds. Boat is in Missouri. Granted I don't live there but that is what I took with me. We traveld that day into Kansas and I wasn't thrilled with Kansas I did think seeing the two cities one on each side of the border was kinda kewl.
However; Kansas we hit a horrid tornado and we left during going to Colorado which wasn't as warm as I hoped we went to Pikes Peak and Boulder. However it got made up hitting Grand Canyon, an Nevada with scorchers.
We were trying to take three weeks of going out west and seeing things and we did. Left pretty vivid impressions.
We traveled the first part of June this was many years ago. Lets put it this way while there I had to put a wind breaker on. That says to me cool not hot dripping. Maybe we didn't it hit when you all were having scorchers. However; it balanced out cause in Vegas you could fry eggs on the sidewalks it was so hot.
I didn't disclose to the recruiters I was pregnant at the beginning cause first I wasn't aware. Then when I was I wanted to see where I would of been placed and weigh it against other opportunities.
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