How do you do it?

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How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:15pm
::::snork:::: and I love the line "the downtown area"....as if NYC's "downtown area" was a block or two of office/department store space instead of something on the order of 88+ blocks of city split into downtown, midtown and uptown.

You couldn't pay me to do winter in a big northern city (like NYC, Boston, Chicago, Detroit or Minneapolis) without a decent pair of snow boots. heck, even here in DC/Baltimore, where we don't get snow very often, I STILL keep snowboots handy because when we DO get those nor'easters, boots are invaluable. I also keep a pair in my car's trunk, along with a full change of clothes, several pairs of socks and a thermal blanket in case a sudden, unexpected snowstorm (like when a morning squall of flurries stalls out over the area and dumps a foot or more of snow on us) leaves me stranded somewhere.

Might not wear snowboots every day all winter, but it's silly to go without just because of that.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:17pm
Horse :

I wasn't enlisted I was an applicant nothing more nothing less. And they were unaware I was pregnant.
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:24pm
Reis mom:

A lady at church home schools her children as you stated she didn't finish school and does study the lessons and teaches them what she wants from the curriculum. However; I do believe in her case the children would benefit from being in school more. She can only impart so much of her wisdom and if she did not finish school her comprehension an degree of what she can an can not teach would limit the children in learning what they can. There are pros and cons for home vs traditional school. Another board could be created just for that topic. I do know that she and some other church mom's who home school feel passionate about it. As do the moms that send there children to regular schools. Again it's back and forth on preference. I think both scenerios depends upon what your goals are for the child and how much you want the child to know and can share and impart.

So do you think that would get as many hits as this message has? I bet it would. It would spark the SAHMs vs the working moms and such.
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:25pm
Mother General was it Dr. Laura?
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:29pm

Okay you win, I am not going to debate you about the weather.

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:31pm
No Meghannsangel, it was just some lady calling in to a local radio show. They were talking about how working moms and dads cope when the kids are out of school and daycares are closed for the holidays, but parents still have to work. This jackass got on her soap box about how if we all gave up our cable TV and dinners out once a week, we could stay home too! Really ticked me off, since I work because I must, mostly. We don't have luxuries, and in fact, don't even have a Christmas tree this year. We were adopted by a local family, and those are the only gifts my kids will receive this year. Really depressing, and it just makes my blood boil to hear these "I'm better than you because I stay home and raise my own kids" loudmouths.

Sorry...there I go again!!! I know it's just one person's opinion, but it really frosts my tail!!

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:33pm
islimshady:

The school my child attends just doesn't put them out unless it's like 70 or above. And definitely not in the rain or snow. I do not give my address out over the internet suffice to say I live in a city . My father works in a Christian school as well and they do not put the children out either.

As far as preschools I don't see those children out only in 70 or above weather also and they are around where I work and my childs school. We have daycares, and preschools in our downtown for working parents as well. They have enclosed areas and they do take them to see the Christmas lights where they do walk outside for that sort of thing. But play nope unless it's warmer.

I know some parents outside of school that allow their children to play in 60 and 50 weather outside however; I do not. It gets my child sick. It gets me sick. So I simply don't do it.

I live in the south
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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:33pm

Anyone else ready to move on the mittens or glove debate now?


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:43pm
Islimshady;

This is absolutely ridiculous. I have shopped in NYC. In fact we had some folks from our schools and college perform there just this past Thanksgiving and guess what no boots. Hahahaha and I find it hard to believe that a city that large doesn't clean off it's streets or sidewalks. I am sure there are sections as with every city or town that doesn't get the full extent. But for the most part cleaned off so you can walk.

By the way even with a light dusting of snow that doesn't necessitate boots. Even with an inch it doesn't necessitate boots. What it does need is wearing older shoes and taking nice ones and discarding the socks and shoes once at your destination. And oh by the way I didn't wear boots in NYC when I went shopping an it was December. In fact as i recall I wore black patton leather slides.
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Registered: 08-12-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 2:45pm
Ahhhh! But you have to describe for our friends from other areas what happens when it does snow in Balto-DC! The federal government folds up as soon as the first flake falls (yay!). People who haven't drunk milk since they were six years old suddenly need three or four gallons and toilet paper trucks won't be able to get through, so be sure to pick up 3 or 4 hundred rolls. And bread! To hell with Atkins! You need bread! No need to drive slower,though. You got that big ol' "safety first" SUV, so you can still go 90 mph. Never mind that you bought the 2WD version or don't know how to engage your 4wd.

HNIM, do you remember the game the MD Lottery had a couple of years ago called "Chance of Snow"--it was a scratch ticket and you had to get three gallons of milk or three rolls of toilet paper or three loaves of bread? LOL

You all probably figued out that I'm a Snow Snob. I've lived in W. Va, upstate NY and Boston. I just love the mid-Atlantic repsonse to even the *concept* of snow.

 

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