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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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What is idiotic is that you think everyone has to conform to your ideals of wearing boots, or how one is approached to enter the millitary. The narrow mindedness of your posting shows me just why there is so much discord in society.
Thanks for teaching me a valuable lesson. And thanks for also showing me that some people live in that black and white areas that can't fanthom grey.
As for clearing maybe you aren't hitting the nicer sections of town. According to my relatives in little Italy streets and sidewalks are cleared and they don't seem to have any problems. However; it doesn't matter to me I don't live there.
Where I live is handled an that is all I have to be concerned with. It's not that I don't realize other areas of the country have snow or inclement weather it's the mere gestopness of saying everyone has to wear boots. Which I find ludicrous and no not everyone will have gangerine because they don't wear boots. Think about that. You have to be in the cold for a period of time and also your feet have to be wet and who says I or anyone else would stay out in that weather.
I know where we stayed at the Plaza it wasn't bad and it was cleared off and I had no problems getting a cab or getting into the cab and as I said I had black patton slides on so you go head on. I will wear what I want to wear you wear what you want this is America.
I visit Annadale all the time and I don't need boots. I do wear my gym shoes or mules though :). And I do wear a coat.
Good cause it's not worth debating about. Not everyone shares the same perception you could look at the sky and say it's blue I could look at it an see grey it's all good though. That is what makes the world go round.
Oh don't I know it...yesterday it was 60 degrees here!
PumpkinAngel
I understand how that caller made you feel. Don't let her get you down. You are doing the best for your children. She doesn't know you or your situation. She believes that way because she isn't walking in your shoes. I would be frustrated as well. I know with this debate board we have been going over many issues and some of disagree and you will find some on here very much like that lady. And what I have learned from life an this board is let them think the way in the scheme of things their input isn't going to matter much in what I do or decide. There are some very logical posters that cut through the heart of the matter.
Please don't pounce and I am sure others will however; I think women should be allowed to work if they want to and if they don't want to stay home all the time fine. If they have to they have to and step parents and dads need to buck up and stop being vindictive and controlling in regards to saying one way is better than the other.
Some very famous and very smart people have been raised by single working mothers. Look back in the days of Rosie the Rivetor and when fathers passed away were those mother's any less cause they worked. No. If you are doing your job and taking care of the children then there shouldn't be a problem.
Daycare, Preschool basically the same thing. And school the children go. Part of being a parent is fostering in our children independence if we are with them everywaking moment isn't that more codependcy then fostering them to have what they need to go out in the world.
Outside influences such as teachers, coaches, music instructors are a good thing. They are allowing our children to see different perspectives and learn thatit is okay that they do not have to be like mom or dad and thatthey don't have to be a drone. I don't know Mother General but I hope you don't let that phone call get you down. I am sorry that this year is rough for you.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and please don't let some of these people detour you. Keep your eye on the prize :) Faith Hope and Love are the important things hold tight.
PumpkinAngel
I think where I am debating is with the idealogy that because you think a certain way everyone should or shouldn't do it. That is where I took issue and capitalized on it. b
No what you are doing is arguing about nothing and trying to have the last word about nothing.
PumpkinAngel
Black patton slides? Is that General Patton?
Its black "patent" ...
Hollie
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