How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 3:33pm
I just have to laugh...70 degrees is t-shirt and shorts weather where I live. 60 degrees is a nice, balmy day that might require a sweater if there were a breeze blowing. It is all very relative...

Laura

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 3:49pm
And I had to laugh at the bizarre notion that kids shouldn't play outside if it's under 70. I'm thinking of the preschool my son attended the year we lived in Vermont. They played outside every day. One night there was a freezing rain on top of several feet of snow. It left an ice glaze about six inches deep on the top layer of snow. The next day, the teachers cut the ice into blocks and the kids built a huge fort. I thought it was really cool!

I used to send my son to school with a full-body snowsuit AND a parka to wear over it, plus hat, mittens, and snowboots.

However, I do support an individual's right to trudge through the snow in sneakers if that's what she prefers. Whatever.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 3:55pm
But I'll bet they did "slide" in all that snow and ice! *nt*
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 3:56pm
If the kids around here were kept indoors until it hit 70 degrees, they'd be entirely indoors for about 10 months per year. It is a tradition that everyone goes out in all kinds of weather (including pouring rain). You get used to it, because otherwise you'd never get out. Heck, babies are bundled up in snowsuits and fur sacks and put outside in their strollers for naps during winter. Not getting kids out for their daily round of fresh air would be considered poor care on the part of teachers.


Laura

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:12pm

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:14pm

Childcare regulations in all three states I've lived in *require* the children to go out 2x a day unless it is "inclement" weather (i.e. rain, snow, severe wind or extreme cold). I'd NEVER put my children in a child care facility that didn't put a great emphasis on outdoor recreation.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:18pm
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No what you are doing is arguing about nothing and trying to have the last word about nothing.

It's a debate board nothing more nothing less.

If you don't want to wear boots in the snow...don't. If you don't want your children to wear boots in the snow...don't. Who the heck cares what happens to your feet? That's what everyone is saying.

No they are implying that we will get all gangerine and other things which is okay but we don't have those things so it's kinda ridiculous.

They are also saying they don't agree with you, they want to wear boots to protect their feet and their children's feet. We want are kids to play outside when the weather is below 70 degrees. Heck both my boys were out yesterday without a coat on playing and eeks it was 60 degrees and sunny. Guess I should have kept them inside.

My child goes out in 60 however she prefers not to. No what was happening was that they were saying and the original poster was saying that because the mom of the two boys didn't have boots she was negligent it's not negligence it's choice, preference.

They have a better idea of the weather on a long term basis where they live than you do or your many visits throughout the country for one or two days.

Well as I said it's about perception each person views things through their own lenses.

As for a topic there is one the original poster posted.


For pete's sake pick a topic that is worthy of such a heated debate.



PumpkinAngel



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Registered: 12-08-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:23pm
Hollie when typing that I had just read the General's post. LOL See the amazing things the mind can and does do.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:27pm
Dano

We don't trudge we don't have much snow. We have cold weather. And I didn't say kids shouldn't play out under 70 I said 60 and below is ridiculous. It's too cold and causes colds and upper respiratory problems for both myself and my child. As well other family members. We were raised that way and now my child is. Our school systems here apparently view it the same way and keep the children in.

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Mon, 12-22-2003 - 4:28pm
No Dano the sidewalk was cleaned off. And no sliding and I enjoyed my shopping and my dinner out. As well the people I was with and the children.

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