How do you do it?
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| Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm |
I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????
I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.
My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:
She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!
Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.
Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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There is a guy in our local paper that a radio and our city puts out Redmond is his name and people are writing in to say can him. He writes the advice to parents regarding their children. He hits topics such as should your child share your bed, or step parenting have your child adore the step mom and spank your child and weep and it gets outrageous people what I have read have gotten so bent out over his articles.
I figure he writes them for that very purpose so he can say he has mail. Just like our kids.
That was my initial point with the boots but it got lost in all those posters wagging.
By the way hope you weren't near the quake.
Take care. b
May I ask a question?
When I am sick I get distracted with trying to work, trying to keep up with the new message board which this is to me. It's like figuring out a game without the directions.
Okay.
Laura
*I*, however, do not have a choice of gym shoes or boots because I live in a different culture with an entirely different weather situation and if I were to send my child to school in the middle of winter in gym shoes, I'd be getting a call from the school to deliver proper shoes pronto because otherwise, my child would get frostbite. Failure to provide proper winter boots IS considered neglect where I live and rightfully so. There is no school anywhere in this country that provides indoor facilities for the free periods because the cultural norm here is that everyone goes out in all kinds of weather....that is what children grow up with.
"It's the mere fact that you are trying to boss someone around and tell them what they should and shouldn't wear. "
It is not "someone", it is a basic fact of weather conditions that dictate what someone wears. You could choose to send your child outside when it is 100 F in warm pants, long sleeves, sweater and jacket, but I bet you don't. Why? because it is highly inappropriate gear for that kind of weather and your child would likely get hit by heat stroke. I'm betting that dressing your child that warmly on a very hot day would raise eyebrows and cause plenty of mutterings about neglect, poor parenting and possibly child-endangerment even where you live. I don't know if the OP lives in an area like mine with weather that dictates that a child must own at least one pair of winter boots. But there really are areas in the world where the failure on the part of parents to provide winter boots could rightfully be seen as child endangerment.
Laura
I wear my slides out in the snow,
Put me on ice and watch me go!
Won't bother me if I might fall,
I have no sense, you see, at all.
I wear a coat in May and June,
My feet dance to a different tune.
'Cause chilly days just make me wheeze,
I'll stay indoors at 60, please.
My feet? They're fine all cold and wet
Like they, in tennies, often get.
I would not wear boots in D.C.,
They make my feet stink, can't you see.
I would not wear boots in New York,
I think I'd look just like a dork.
I would not wear boots in the snow,
Don't think I need them, don't you know.
Because I don't, then why should you?
Why worry if your toes are blue?
I think you should be foolish too.
Edited 12/23/2003 9:01:19 AM ET by cocoapop
Laura
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