How do you do it?

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How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 5:58am
Now, now be fair....we are ALL wasting an enormous amount of time on this thread :-).

Laura (for whom winter boots are a business NOT to be taken lightly :-))

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 6:38am
Sorry. Today is my last day at work and I'm burning through last minute demands because I have one very important appointment today. Lunch with my son. :-) The thought of debating whether or not boots are necessary in the northeast (with snow piles past my ankles) is mind boggling.

outside_the_box_mom

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 6:43am
Haven't been in New York in the winter but I assume it is like anywhere that I have lived. When they plow the streets, they have to put the snow somewhere so it ends up on the sides just were the people have to walk. Nothing like having to walk over a mountain of snow without proper footwear.
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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 6:43am
I have to say, it is pretty mind-boggling that someone even needs this pointed out. Enjoy your lunch with your son (I think it was your birthday? If so, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!). We are enjoying a three week holiday from school and work and will head out to the science museum today :-).


Laura

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 7:00am
Thank you! I'm pretty excited, actually. Taking two weeks off. Luxury. DS is home too, and we're busy with Harry Potter legos. Will also do ice skating, roller skating, and sledding (boots, hats, gloves, coat, scarf, chapstick and sled all def. needed!).

Enjoy your three weeks and the science museum.

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 7:03am
Wow! Great minds think alike...ds just rebuilt his entire Harry Potter castle today (don't even ask how much Harry Potter lego he has!) and we decorated it with battery operated Christmas lights :-).


Laura

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 7:17am
I have a great pair of boots. They're purple with white laces. But they have the thinsulate insulation and they are WARM. I look like a dork wearing them, but hey, I'm warm and toasty with them on!! I live in the northeast, but in NJ. We're not as north as most of the NE, but we get our share of snow and cold weather. We've already had two snow storms since the beginning of Dec. That's pretty unusual for us.
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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:15am
No, you don't. You get sick because you were exposed to viruses or germs, not because you were in the cold. If the cold has *anything* at all to do with your getting sick, it would be because you've dressed yourselves inappropriately, permitting your bodies to become chilled, which *can* (but does not necessarily, depending on whether you are generally healthy otherwise) lower your resistance to disease.

But cold, in and of itself, does not make you sick. That's simply a lie.

children are perfectly capable of playing outside in sub-70 degree weather all day long--presuming they are fortunate enough to be born to parents who are capable of dressing them appropriately for the weather.

I guess when children are unlucky enough to be born to Mommies who think sneakers and "black patton slides" are appropriate winter footgear, they're going to get sick a lot.

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:46am
i think you meant to post to someone else? No advice needed ... <>

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been a WOHM for 12+ YEARS (8 years with all 3 kids). No prissy little ass here, LOL! And ask anyone here, but i've never judged ANY mother for whether they woh or sah.

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again, i think you have meant to post to someone else.

eileen

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Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:47am
If cold weather had anything to do with getting sick then I would have been sick much more often when I lived in Michigan, North Dakota than I was when I lived in Florida, Oklahoma and now Texas, but that is not the case.

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