How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 2:46pm
I'm guessing she lives in "Imaginary Land" and that her endocrinologist is Dr. Duzzentexist. Presumably, she lives "right next to Michigan" in a state that rarely sees snow. Look at any map of North America and name even ONE border state/province to Michigan that does not experience sufficient amounts of snow during the winter to warrant the purchase of boots in order to protect appropriate from the elements.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 2:50pm
Cocoapop:

You know what my child doesn't have a complex in fact the teachers and most people want their children modeled after my child. The teachers always makes this comment to both myself, my parents and siblings. When she is with her friends all the parents comment on how polite and mannerly and mature she is.

She does exceedingly well in school. She is a great soccer and baseball and I didn't stutter Baseball against the boys I might add can knock one out of the park. She prefers summer and spring and fall there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Nor is there anything wrong with her being an avid reader or dressing nicely.

Maybe if some of you could afford to do so you might stop criticizing those that are able to.

As far as this message board it's a public access topic debate board which I find a joke. It's something to waste time on nothing more or less and any credence that I pay attention to is only to those that post something of intelligent to say.

So far you haven't except to whine about how in NYC we need boots, guess what I said I was southern I didn't say I live in the south. I live in the NORTH and we don't have boots, but we do have proper attire.

I have to go I have lunch reservations.bb

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 2:53pm
Savcal the original poster was saying the custodial parent was negligent because she either did not buy the 2 boys boots, or didn't prefer them. Or they had them they just weren't sharing that tid bit of information with the step mother.
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Registered: 06-25-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 2:57pm
Well this seem easy for me to answer. "I Just Had To" use daycare and a good one I did in order to support my children. If you also had asked "if you had a choice?. I would answer my choice would be to stay home, not only because of the children, but because I have burned out working in the public sector. I dropped my dd's off at 7am and picked them up about 5:30ish or so, and for this, they enjoyed the perks of the world, made a lot of friends and became very friendly toward others; so all it all daycare (and an excellent place they attended) really helped me.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:01pm
Hee! That's classic. I love it :)
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:02pm
Obviously she has problems with reading when the posts about how I was at one point considering millitary she went off on a tirade about how they don't accept pregnant people. Little did she read the recruiter and myself for that matter didn't know I was pregnant and I was weighing many options but she went off they did not do this and that. She's a fool I suffer no fools.

As far as jealousy she must be if she continues to expect us here who have 60 degree weather to wear boots because snow fluries or rain. We can purchase them but most people here don't as other's pointed out Texigan has pointed out where she lives they don't buy boots. Majority of folks outside of fashion sake do not buy boots. Yet she continues to harp. And most people if traveling to another city unless extended stays do not purchase that type of thing.

As for her boys hahahah I found that amusing good attendence is a good thing however; I would be far more concerned with the academics whether they are getting gym or not. I guess she will be proud when the boys are enrolled in basket weaving as well. However; I will will be proud when my child finishes medical school so . I guess in this world we need both doctors and basketweavers.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:12pm
Reis Mom:

My daughter's school right now is uniforms and they tell them what type of shoes are appropriate anything deviating the child is sent home until they dress appropriate and marks are given. Now the school she has tested into and is going into next year is pretty more casual and it will be a transition for her. She likes the uniforms that way no one is fighting over what someone else is wearing and shoes do not get stolen and the girls can dress conservatively as opposed to some of the lower cut blouses in juniors that they do not want or think is appropriate.

As far as pants we have seen young men with the baggy drawers but they aren't allowed to do that at school. In fact there was a bit of discussion over clear backpacks.

Some schools go by dress codes and uniforms and she is at one of them . Our parochial school are that way also. And makeup and like no different color hair you know how sometimes kids will take kool aid and dye their hair they aren't allowed to do that. So that is the way it is . We are fine with it.

As far as shoes mostly they wear gym shoes. No thongs. They wear shorts during Aug, Sept part of Oct and if Apr if weather permits and May and they are out. No open ended shoes. Friday is school spirit day either a t shirt with school mascot or sweatshirt with school mascot or the school colors. No jeans except on Friday. And that is about it.

Presently with rain and cold weather they keep the children inside during lunch and since she is in the upper grades recess or study hall is spent inside they can practice an instrument, play four square, a board game, read or talk which they aren't allowed to do in the classroom due to the structure of having to get so much in. Basically socialize. Lunch isn't thatlong for them anyway. They are out by 1:30
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:14pm
You are right thanks you make it so clear who should be on ignore :)
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:16pm
I have a thicker skin however i am not staying off the debate boards, and guess what I pegged you for hens. I was told if it walks like a duck quack like a duck it is a duck so duck off.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 3:36pm

Actually you might want to read the posts, you seem to be blending people. I don't believe H&I mentioned that her children had perfect attendance, I did and it was not in

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