How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:16pm
Speaking of whom, did I mention John made it official on Sunday? (took pity on his stepmom and I and didn't make us wait until March to start calling his gf our future DIL :) He had the blessing of her Mom and Grandmom, and proposed with her Grandmom's engagement ring at her family's Christmas party in front of her entire family.

(I am SO glad we all really like her, too; she's just wonderful and so is her son--who got along SO well with the other kids in the family on Saturday night; John's dad and stepmom hosted his family's annual Pollyanna exchange and her son just jumped right into the midst of the other kids and got along so well. :) Can you tell I'm just over the moon about this?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:16pm
LOL! Maybe she confused Missouri with Michigan. Afterall, they both start with M. Looks like she isn't coming back to explain her version of geography to us. Oh well!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:22pm
No, I hadn't noticed that. But that's probably because SHE HASN'T DONE THAT. So whatever else you have against Eileen, perhaps you could limit your bile to only those things she actually does, instead of flaming her for something you're only imagining.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:22pm
She can't speak for the south since she lives in Ohio. Last I heard that was north of the "the South" and considered the midwest. But she has spoken for the entire state of Ohio and FYI - not one person in that state wears boots. :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:26pm
Lets see... I live in Southern California so technically I live in the "South". LOL And you know the crazy thing is here in So California people wear boots all the time in the "winter"! Because when it hits 50 degrees around here that's considered frostbite weather!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:36pm
Congratulations to your son and your soon to be Daughter-in-law !
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 8:56pm
Congratulations! What a nice thing to be celebrating.

Smart lad you have there, proposing before Christmas. My dad made the mistake of wanting to give my mom the ring when she wasn't expecting it, and gave it to her AFTER Christmas. After giving her a STEAM IRON for a Christmas present! I'm amazed she didn't brain him with the d*mned thing, LOL! (He likes tools, and thought that was a 'girl version tool,' poor dumb bugger, LOL.)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 9:31pm
I lived in Ohio as a child and I wore boots during the winter. We got a ton of snow. Maybe with global warming and all, things have changed, snork. And when I was growing up, we referred to ourselves as midwesterners, not southerners. Last time I looked, Ohio was in the midwest, not the south.

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 9:36pm
Looks like your history is as good as your geography. If you live right next to Michigan then that makes you a Yankee.
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 10:53pm
Hmmmm putting a roof over the child's head, food in their belly and clothes on their backs aren't priorities?

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