How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:42pm
know what....Get your story straight and then get back to us.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:42pm
Texigan I said I live a jump shout and holler away and next to Michigan which means I am some part away but doable to get to meaning I don't live like on the border it might take a drive to get to. It's like when I was on my trip in September I we went through all of the Blue Ridge from the start to finish. In doing so I was next to never getting to state to state. By the time I completed the whole thing we had been in 7 states.

It was my way of answering you without telling you where I live. Meaning I am not divulging that on a message board.

And as far as I know history and geography has always made Kentucky, Tenn, Georgia, Ala, Ark, Georgia, Fl, Virgina, WV, Carolinas, Texas and Ms. all south. Now unless Miss Southern California and yourself is rewriting history and wanting to reinact the civil war I think you are going to have a hell of time doing it.

And by the way I am not a Yankee .



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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:44pm
Unless your in Manhatten Beach, or Anneheim or Culver City I dont' give a rats ass.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:45pm
I'm new to this board. I have yet to read through all 794 posts but I did start at the beginning so I'm going to start there with my two cents. Take them for what you will(or won't!)

I had a preschool in our home for the better part of 15 years. I'd venture to say that the dcp (as you call it) has more influence than that of the parent. For the positive or negative is based on who you have chosen to provide care for your child. I can't recall how many phone calls I've recieved(some in the middle of the night) asking questions on how to do this or that. If your provider isn't raising your child then tell me what she/he is doing all day long with your child/ren? I was raising children, well I might add.

When choosing your provider you should want someone with whom your child relates to on a familial basis. Else why place your child with them? It isn't all about abc's and 123's all those five years, is it?

It sounds to me like you are defensive of your position. I suppose we SAHM's are also. That is what this board is all about, eh?

I will say--We closed our preschool because I became tired of "raising" the children for the parents. It was a never ending job and thankless for the most part. The money was great. Any childcare provider that says she's/he's not playing the role of the parent and raising these children is not being honest out of respect for the parents. We couldn't have made a better decision. I'm a mother now and that is far more rewarding than working--anyday.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:46pm
If "strangers" (I am assuming you mean complete & total strangers) are raising your children, well then I would say you have bigger fish to fry.
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:47pm
Yeah several states next to :) Not exactly next lol a jump shout and holler. And again this is a public message board and I am not posting where I live over a message board. LOL

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:47pm
No, you said

"Guess what I live right next to Michigan and tons of us do not have boots."

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:48pm
Yeah amusement parks is there any in Kentucky yes Six Flags, Is there any in Tenn yes Dollywood are there any in Georgia yeah Six Flaggs, are there any in Florida yea Orlando Disney World. It was an ambiguous post.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:49pm
What is the big secret about the state you live in. I live in Round Rock, Texas, big deal that evreyone here knows it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-23-2003 - 11:49pm
Would that be the same as a hop, skip and a jump? or is a "jump shout and holler away" closer?

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