How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:31am
What the heck does Minnie Pearl have to do with childish, sophmoric games?
Virgo
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:32am
They won't even guess who has a cancer center named after her, now would they? LOL. Gotta price on that, anyone?

 

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:39am
Shelia haven't had PapaJohn's. Pizza Hut since Pepsi owns it is everywhere you want to be lol. The original poster was a step mother who was stay at home that wanted her step sons to watch while his mother worked. Mother however; had different ideas about this and put the children in daycare and didn't get along with paternal grandparents. Step mom found fault with Mom there and cited not buying boots as a crime hence the boot discussion.



Then she proceeded to tell the board that Mom was being hit by one of her children at a sporting event and she interceded which she thought the children wouldn't do that if they were under dad and her care. Later she revealed Mom was pregnant and the child could be upset about the pregancy and or the back and forth between the two houses and the situation.

Then other posters got into a heated debate about the contraversy of time spent at daycare. When step mom there puts her child in nursery school which equates to preschool or daycare. So it was a hypocritical posting kinda. She came thinking everyone would rally and support her contention so that her and husband could once again file for custody of the children.

Then I posted that wearing boots or not wearing boots isn't negligent and then it began. I and my daughter do not prefer boots. Then it snowballed . I cited we don't get much snow and what we do get is taken care of so it's not a problem and I see no need for myself or my daughter to have them. If she wanted them I would purchase them however; she doesn't like them.

Then the issue went on about going outside in the cold. Which my daughter's school doesn't in winter months and cold and rainy weather does not put them outside for recess or for lunch. Only in good weather. I noted that we both suffer from autoimmune diseases that has impaired us and when we go out in the cold we get sick. Some jumped on the band wagon about that.

Then a discussion about the millitary I made the comment that I applied when I was younger and took the testing to explore what the different types of millitary would place me in. I had graduated college and exploring if I had made the right choice in career directions. I was pregnant unbeknownst to myself and the recruiter however; that really wasn't a factor cause after they discussed the different basics I was like not interested.

I also commented upon Fort Bragg compared to the Air Force Base close by that was very nicely kept, lanscaped and I questioned that.

Then they started on where do you live which I have evaded for just cause :)

You are pretty much up to day Shelia :)

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:39am
Could someone explain how the original poster was called out about her opinion on the debate?

 

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:41am
Virgo it keeps the posts going and only so many people actually realize her real name :) And it's just a quote. Why we are only at 835 :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:42am
Sounds like sheila and megan are stuck in the dorms for christmas break. LOL
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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:46am
Shelia:

She was a great lady.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:49am
It's just for fun, good grief... you afterall have been keeping it going, really. I'm comfy cozy in my school room at home, thank you very much. I think it is funny that you have belittled the woman over why she won't give out her location. Some people don't want to. So what. I'd tell you where I live but it would give her away. lol..

I came to this board with an interest about SAHM/wohm. And this is what I got. Oh brother. Can't get ya'll to talk about the issue at hand so I joined in your funfest. lol

 

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:49am
Shelia:

She was called out because the post began about stay at home moms vs working mothers but really was about her relationship with the mother of her step children and not so much about the topic she originally sited. Meaning she slamed the working mothers to solicit support for her situation with the mother of her step children. That is calling out. Hidden agenda was she was illiciting support so she could say they agree I am a stay at home mother therefore the boys should be with us argument.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:56am
Our posts crossed. Thanks for the info, though. Yeah she was. What about that great quarterback? Pizza Hut has a great buffet before 1pm for the kiddoes.

I don't think she should have used the board like that but perhaps she didn't intend to. You know how we tend to get emotional about our situations and have a "my way or no way" attitude.

One thing I've learned in the short time I've been surfing these boards is that you have to be tough as nails when you read others' posts and gentle as the breeze when you do the posting. It helps if you read through it all and take off your rose colored glasses once in a while.

So, are you a SAHM or WOHM?

 

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