How do you do it?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
How do you do it?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 8:31pm
I hope I don't start a big controversy, but this is a debate board right?

I just have to ask those working moms....How do you do it?????

I am a Step-mom to two boys ages 6 and 9. I have a three year old that has been in minimal nursery school since he was one. He only goes three days a week for a couple of hours.

My step-sons BM (birth mother) just had a baby with her BF and this is her schedule:

She drops my step-sons at school to the morning-care program at 7:15AM (school starts at 8:45AM). She then drives her three month old baby to an in-home sitter that has five or six other kids at 7:45AM and then goes to work. She picks the baby up at 6:00PM and then she picks my SS up from after-care at 6:15PM (their school is over at 3:10PM). So my ss's are at school each day for 11 hours and the three month old baby is at a sitters for 10 hours each day!

Doesn't that seem like a lot! I just don't understand this. I offered to watch my SS's and she let me for two weeks and then got mad at my DH and put them back in the scholl child care program.

Why would you bother having children if someone else is going to raise them for you?

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 12:57am
By the way my take on the staying at home vs working mothers. I think I think you can work around your child, I know I did when she was young and still do. That being said I don't believe the stay at home mother or the working mother are wrong. What I do believe is each person's experience is different.

I think in our society women hold some very important jobs that set up role models for our daughters. Nurses, Doctors and such and that is a great thing it allows us to be able to tell our children you can be anything you want to be if you work for it and you plan.

However; I do realize that our judicial system may not concurr with that because some have the idea that women should stay home to raise the children not all but some do. And that becomes a source of a problem

So what is your take Shelia?

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Registered: 12-08-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:05am
Both:) I do work, however; I have worked around my child. Which means my scheulde and work load accomodates her . When I first had her I was stay at home because I was ill and she was ill. Then I worked and went back to school she went with me. She went with me to work and when she couldn't be with me she was with my mother or sibblings I have a huge family.

I believe we teach our children as well school and experience. Meaning she goes to school but the academics and learning doesn't stop there. She is an avid reader, into music very musch so. She is working on being a doctor. However that is if I can get her away from the drums, fiddle and guitar. and she is thinking saxophone.



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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:47am
When did I bash working moms hon...I AM one...and WHEN did I say Kentucky was north...what I said was that it SNOWS in Kentucky, I have photos ofr my paternal grandmother in the snow, she was born and raised in Kentucky. You might want to get your posts correct before you start slamming someone...otherwise you just come off as ummmmmmmmm stoopid
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:52am
No we didn't feel anything here. But my dogs did start acting up around that time.
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:53am
LMAO...must be in the witness protection program...LMAO this gets funnier and funnier
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:55am
Ahhh but she's not going to "divuldge" where she lives on a message board...LMAO...someone might come and "get her" LMAO...I need to head to the bathroom...LMAO
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:56am
Actually it's not Christmas here...Christmas is on the 25th...it's still the 23rd here hon. LMAO....
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 1:58am
LMAO...are you looking over your shoulder yet? Somone might have the techolology to find you're IP then find out where you live...LMAO
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:00am
She's probably trying to figure out WHICH story...
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Registered: 08-16-2003
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 2:01am
LMAO....funnier and funnier

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